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Into Rabbit’s hole or In Wonderland!!

A girl of ten,Alice, falls into a Rabbit hole and gets lost in the world made of populated by grotesque figures and anthropomorphic creatures.

“Alice fell into a Rabbit Hole” Vs “Alice in Wonderland”…phew!!!

Look at the ton of Difference these two phrases make.

A simple girl falling into a Rabbit hole could have triggered a Pathetic Story of Miss-venture but Lewis Carroll had the sense to celebrate even this crisis.

The Miss-venture was cleverly tuned into an adventure that has managed to lull thousands of kids across the globe.

Well …this is all life is!

All of us have our own pet assortments of pressures, concerns, worries, issues, qualms et al, but maybe we can make a festival out of them all!

It’s after all A SPECIAL OCCASION called “LIFE”

Forward!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

for 2 years i had consciously steered away from posting any FORWARDS related stuff in this blog. But this forwarded "THOUGHT" , "MESSAGE" or "CRAP" ( as i fondly call the forwrds spamming my inbox), has found an echo in me.


In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman ......"What kind of man are you looking for?"She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking."Do you really want to know?"Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."She began to expound... As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more." I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.She said, " I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man." I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... Believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection. Financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong Enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.He said, "You're asking a lot."She replied, " I'm worth a lot."

Oh! all i could say after i read this was ... " HOW TRUE". Marriage brings to families together and more importantly, two individuals who are open and ready to respect each other.!!!

I m sure my Mr.Right would be mumbling " not another Relationship post!!!"
all is far in love,war and ofcourse with words,dude!!


Cheers
Pushkala

Chennapatinam..Madras..Chennai...wat next ?

T Nager has never failed to fascinate me. Be it the crowded railway station or the Hawker ( waiting to hack your purse) prone Ranganathan Street or the “99.99” rated BATA or THE oldest Eatery Saravana Bhavan or the trusted since ages GRT or the newbies Pothys,Chennai Silks or the “One Way“ talking Autokarans or the people who make it the happening place “US”, T Nager sums up the emotion and liveliness of the city. The richness of Nalli and mytic chimes of Kabali temple and the rhythmic beauties in Kalashetra and the mesmerizing voices in the numerous Kutcheries…..Wow!! Chennai .. U rock!

Chennai has always been a fertile ground for jobs and money. Be it the banks or industries like General Motors, FORD, LEATHER Factory or Software majors , Chennai has always had their presence in its soil. Singara Chennai has been blessed on this account. More blessings come in with the attitude of Chennaites.

Chennai, the Conservative Capital, has made the best use of its conservativeness. People have always been stringent of their purses but liberal on their passbooks. Maybe that’s the reason; most Chennaites have been able to spend a lot on their wards Education. No wonder we have “N” number of institutes around the city charging exuberant fees.

With money flowing in, and the CHENNAI- REST OF COUNTRY divide slowly disappearing, it wouldn’t surprise me if Chennai looses it CONSERVATIVENESS to some arbit TIER II city.

What happened to banglore 10 years back is what is happening to Chennai now. A city to known to live its life by its own standards..will we retain the CHENNAI label or is this change going to send us blogging abt the GOOD OL’ Days in Chennai!!

Apalikaaa adutha post la pakalam...ipppodaiki jagaaah vangikaraen!!! ( did i miss Chennai Tamil in my list :P )

Apeethu!

Pushkala!

Blog-ationship!

Some asked me the reason i blog.

1) Is it plain Vetti Kirukals?
Why would a person showcase his vettiness to the world? Is it not a blessing to be Busy!!

2) A display of one's literary Skills!
Could be, but do people really spend so much time and effort to appreciate the language. "NO"

3) A Despo attempt to be heard!!
Take a life!!! All this is too virtual to harp on!

4) Think aloud and get new perspectives!
Well..one logical reason..But Why think aloud!!

Well... the person have me one logical conclusion.... he felt its the exhibitionistic attitude in each of the blogger that make him write!
well..I got thinking on that note.... Are we real like minded EXHIBITIONISTS who want to show the world ..they think!

On the flip side, who isnt exhibitionistic. !
The nature is exhibitionistic with its myriad hues and shades. If showing a sign means being exhibitionistic, then every odd movement, action, gesture, deed,word,moment are an exhibition of the life in us.

Nothing wrong in telling the world I EXIST...!
Even the staunchest of the Himalayan recluse comes down to the town for the kumbh mela...so is it an Exhibition of his faith....Nopez...its just the way of telling the world their way of life!

Well I m signing off as an confused soul wondering about the relationship i have with this blog!!!
Thanks to Mr.Confuser for making me wonder about this Blogationship

Cheers
Suha

Docked between Ships!

That Singular ‘SMS’ demanding the presence in a friend’s birthday party meant an immediate scooting to that place.

But this would be only until another ship docks on the other side of the individual. Caught between two mighty Ships – Friendship and Relationship, the individual has the options shrinking !

That SMS which got the person started, now would a very diplomatic reply-‘Held up’.

How beautifully it conveys the message, I am busy with something more important than my best buddy.

Well, nothing wrong with this sentiment though, Priorities keep shifting all through out life.

But the precariousness of this Caught between Ships thingy is that, both a friend and a potential spouse are people whom you can dare to be absolutely yourself. And Courtship is a period when the affinity towards the potential spouse gets so strong that we subconsciously want to spend every available moment with that person.

Friends, somehow never even get a moment with the individual to express how happy the friends are for him/her.

A friend who has laughed out for the bluntest of teaser pulls a long face for not picking up a call. A friend who perfectly understands every vibe suddenly feels let down!

Maybe this is beauty of the whole marriage process.

It gives in a person who is a strong but subtlety expressed replacement for almost all relationships. Be it that of a father, mother, sibling and even best buddy!

Both these ships are strong, dependable and lot depends on how one steers and anchors the ships.

One need not be a captain of these ships to ensure things are fine, one can also sit back and enjoy the beauty of ocean (while the chosen captain steers the ship) but ensure you trust the captain and ship completely. One cannot enjoy seeing the serenity in nature’s lap when the Stench of a bad choice hangs over.

End of the day, I really got to know why the Vivek dialogue from Minnalae got so popular

“Figure’aa paatha odanae Friend’aa cut panivititiyae da”

How so true!!

Cheers
Suha

Perception of Perceptions!!

Man is a rational animal, this rationality is condensed into a single word called perception. He Thinks and hence Perceives.

‘Perception’ itself can be perceived in many views. The whole world can perceive the same view or can differ thereby providing a spectrum of opinions.
The Universally Singular perception about day and night makes the world sleep while the stars are up and work while the sun is in his glory. The plurality of perceptions makes a life out of "livingdom".
Now how much of plurality in perceptions is digestible?
It all starts with swallowing the truth that CHANGE IS THE ONLY THING THAT NEVER CHANGES.

Perceptions exhibit the elementary characters of MATTER. PERCEPTIONS (Opinions), once created, Can change from one form to another but can never be destroyed.

The difference between Perception is just the difference between Knowledge and Ignorance. Once something is known or learnt or in otherwords something is PERCIEVED it cannot be unlearnt. The Perception on the topic/thing/person/emotion can change but the can not be destroyed or reverted back to the state called IGNORANCE. May be this is why Ignorance is called Bliss!

The change in perception can be as gradual as Evaporation-Condesation-Percipitation-Evaporation Cycle or as quick as a sublimation process or as gradual as the formation of Stalagmites , the end result is that, the change keeps happening either for the better of the PERCEPTION or for the betterment of the individual who perceives it.

Well, if the blog seems too be in nano-physicist or material scientist’ic terms to you ( I speak my heart out in my blogs!!) , here is a dash of Spirituality. The very own Sanatana Dharma, ‘Hinduism’ advocates the concept of MAYA. MAYA..a beautiful word that reminds the Mortals, Do perceive think but also be reminded that What you see is not what it is.

MAYA generates something for everyone and that something from nothing at all.

Finally, now I perceive, you have perceived enough of my fundae on perception!
So Let the MaYa of your Perception of my Perception of Perception Prevail....!!

Cheers
Push!

A Toast for Commitment!

Phew… a post on relationship here again!

A blissful singledom metamorphoses into eventful commitment. If this sound just a mix of English alphabets and phonetics…..Wait… you have to know more about this.

This is lot about clarity, instinctive judgments, confidence, diplomacy, sense of timing et al.

A big decision, high stakes, life meanders around a word that is gona come out. A kiddo until a week before whose major decisions included the accessories that would best match the dress, the movie worth watching over the weekend, the shop that had the best bangles in the city, now would have to decide on the GO-- NO GO with respect to the potential suitor,

Clarity in thoughts is one big asset , it makes life so simple and easy. Needless confusions could be avoided if a person is clear about his stand on the issues that might bother the topic.

Nothing works wonderfully as instinctive sense. Trust what your heart feels and believe what your mind says. If the choice is gone be right both these would resonate the music together making it MUSIC for life.

Confidence, not just on oneself but on the whole institution of marriage is what is needed here. There is no point in walking down the aisle with doubts about the success of the relationship or about the person. Believe me, if you don’t get a sense of confidence on the person, there is always gona be a little nag in your mind making things worst for you.

Confidence at this point of time is more Instinctive than factual. But Instinctive Confidence would lead you to the Factual confidence. If you are satisfied with the person in the acquaintance mode, it would propel you to learn more about the person (Factual).

Diplomacy..huh one big tool of all the Spin Doctors. The art of Diplomacy blooms when the elections come in..Varied hues of statements and counter statements very subtlety putting across the message that There are no permanent friends nor enemies in Politics.

Talk of relationship in the same breathe, a lot depends on how we convey one’s feelings.

Not every feeling carries the same weightage and this weightage is again highly subjective. The best way is to apply diplomacy, Stress on what is need to be stressed and plainly mention what needs to be mentioned. The cliché is what just need to given a mention need not be given a explanation. Undue importance might take you on rough seas.

Sense of timing!! How aboutt waking Einstein in the middle of the night and talking Greek mythology to him or stopping him between his interlude with his first wife ( VIOLIN) and explaining an equation! Worst isn’t it!

Timing helps a ton in making sure the same sentiment reflects across!

All said and done, Close your eyes and mutter a silent prayer… For

MAN PROPOSES and GOD DISPOSES.

Cheeers!
Pushkala!

Dare To Risk?

Risks...
We would have never come out of caves had nt that Early Ancestor of ours not taken the risk of venturing out. how many of us are willing to take a risk?
Well ..welll ... welll...!forget hitting moon or living in Antartica... there are many incidents wherin we prefer to remain one amongst the crowd ...STAY SAFE attitude is in abundance.
The reasons we give range from "WORDS" like PRACTICALITY, FEASIBLITY, SUSTAINABILITY, ABILITY et al..
But do we understand that all these words ( including the remote kin and kith of these words that mite feature in the context) are all subjective to a SINGLE FACTOR and that is YOU.

PRACTICALITY is a very weird word... what might have been written off as not possible by a person could actually be possible with your attitude.. and to decide whether something is gona work out or not, one should actually take a chance ..DARE to RISK atleast DARE TO THINK rather than writing it off in the first instance.


Having taken the risk to read thru blog....i agree there people with true bold DHIL!

Risking Brickbats
push!

Thinking about thoughts!

The POST is abt now PARTICULAR Topic... its true blue arbit ramblings!!

Be it the mosquito Coil on face effect or Wordsworth'ish Daffodils effect ..Thinking abt past and abt things that are beyond repair has always been a habit with homosapiens -Phylum vertebrata.
Well.. its so happened that i belong to the same phylum and hence exhibit the traits of the same.... the post below Elucidates the same.!

Thoughts that Ate the Travel Time Today! ( Mosquito COIL Swirls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
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How should one react when someone acts too smart and tries to hurt to you.
Though i belive its the other person's wish to try to be rude to one... to be hurt or not is entirely the individual's disposition. To Ignore, smile away rude comments always always don't help or do they?
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Life is all about GETTING USED TO...! True....but can you get used to everything life offers you... Isnt life not about figuring out the options and chances oneself?
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Relationships arise out of chemistry between the pairs but it changes the physics that they have with others. Have had lot of chances to observe the attitude of people before and after they commited into Relationship. Well... its understandable that the folks are in the hyper enthu phase to know each other well ,get the relationship going strong and hence land up showering all their attention and time on each other. A very collegish attitude of SHE IS MY GAL sets in!
Why even the seemingly mature ones showcase this. Well,,a small observation...Public display is perhaps also a mature manifestation of SHE IS MY GAL or HE IS MINE attitude!
Whatever it .. IT IS SICK!
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Last but not the least of my pointless ponder...How do i wish the folks tomorrow..

HAPPY TAMIL NEW YEAR Day
TAMIZH Putaandu nal vazthukal
Happy TAMIZH New Year day
illa verum GUdmorningaa .. illa Summa irundaalae Vidunjudumaa?
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GOD BLESS MY READERS!!


Cheers
Push!

Old.Bold..Cold Attitude!

Talk of getogethers, there happens a jambooree of Relatives. Very Innocent Kiddos to ripe 80 year old maaamis. Having been a such a fun recently, lot of things ran across my mind forcing me to pen them here!

The attitude of the youngsters towards elders struck me hard. I m no Miss.PATIENT, MISS.TOLERANT types but I always insist on a quality called ENDURANCE. Elders predominantly fall into three categories: they are either too conservative to accept our views or too rigid with theirs or they are open to our ideas.. but one can never take them for granted , you would never know how they would react!
I m not being judgemental about the beloved PAATI THAATAs at our home! They are truely a treasure! But is our attitude conveying the message that we Value them.
For once, Not everything could be understood implicitly, there are few things that have to be told and Elders need things to be told to them.
They could be annoying or at times even irritating but believe me more patient our approach is, more learnings will happen from their end.
I m going to visit a OLD AGE home today. I m doing this against my policy of NEVER TO ENCOURAGE OLD AGE HOMES... but today i feeel, they need a patient ear and may be one or two considerate words!! Even now I start half heartedly....I just hope i have a peaceful sleep tonight!

(This is the only Post in this blog where i have literally lamented my first PERSONAL Thoughts! Oooops... i need an Outlet ( N' Blog serves the purpose) and so do the countless old ppl in the home ( N' hope i serve the purpose today!) ... I just realised it and i m heading there!! )



cheers
Push!

Chemistry of relationships!!

Statuatory Warning: Here comes another post on relationships….!


Few fall in love in the FIRST SIGHT ( phew.. a biological Reaction(#1) fastened by CATALYST called LOOKS/APPEARANCE)
Few fall in love gradually ( A reaction (#2) that happens at OPTIMUM CONDITIONS)
Few start of as FRIENDSHIP and turn it to a RELATIONSHIP( A reaction (# 3) that got misled!!)
Or an arranged agreement to fall I love (a planned reaction (#4) with tons of catalysts, with proper conditions set!!)

Well, I don’t have a big opinion on the chemical Reaction #1.
Relationships be it friendship or marital ones has to be borne over a period of time. Faith and trust cannot be built over night is what I strongly believe.
Reaction #2, is relatively better. But there is one thing that might upset the reaction. Courtship is a tricky period wherein it’s the GOODNESS that comes out in full form.
The element of vice be it as trivial as quick temper or social drinking is subconsciously either not revealed by the person or subconsciously not registered by the other person.
Courtship again has to mature over sometime.. But unfortunately the trend is that people either get bored of each other soon or they PERSON of INTEREST changes with the clock ticks!
Reaction #3, Mixing Friendship and relationship….this is one tricky subject to analyze. Given the fact the FRIENDS would know each other inside out …I have somehow not patronized the idea of mixing relationships.
Every relationship should be clearly demarcated.
Friendship across sexes means the physical attraction factor has been nullified. This is presume is the reason why FRIENDSHIP is given special status.
Now, turning such a pure sentiment into a RELATIONSHIP means contaminating it with the CARNAL Factor.

The worst part of the this reaction is that… even if there is just friendship and clean friendship, people around tend to hallucinate a lot and hence conjure a reaction when there is actually nothing brewing.
It takes in lot of maturity to handle a crisis like this, wherein FRIENDSHIP is at stake for the people around!

More so, One who has a picture perfect vision on the kind of person he or she wants could be pretty sure hit in REACTION #3. But unfortunately most of us do not strike with a consistent opinion. As the rule says, Change is the only thing that never changes.


That leaves you with Reaction #4, you really need not have a “MY IDEAL PICTURE” vision. Rather a vague , gazy , CIRCA 1700 picture would serve the purpose !
The whole beauty of arranged marriage lies in the fact that you start with the belief that its going to work out. And this belief metamorphosis into TRUST and faith..



Been a long post….

I believe.. I m gona come back soon with another post…on relationships obviously!!!!


Cheers
Suha!

Prior 2 Priorities

Be it matrimony, be it just shopping, be it starting early from work, there is one word that drives world.. a simple ten lettered word " Priorities".
I wonder what amount of thinking goes behind defining the Priorities.
Defining priorities by itself is a priority.
Now, wat makes me talk abt priorities....Its just this, a friend happened compose a 60 questions sheet which he feels covers all the topics which are important to him., lest he misses something while conversing with a potential suitor.
I was thoroughly amused and angry when i saw that questionnaire.
It makes no sense in making a person sit through with a paper and fill in the details as if its just another exam.
Having said this, not all ppl are vocal and confidant enough to voice their thoughts, so this questionnaire might just be an ice breaker.
One thing of all impressed me mightly, the person who composed this has pumped in ample energy, good will, intention and time to understand his priorities and order them.

Though, i dont approve of the Questionnaire exchange method, I am happy ppl have started understanding their WANTS. For matrimony is one topic wherein you must be clear about the difference between your expectations and wants!

Now if you had expected a neat decent post... i m sorry... and yeah! if you want to comment-- I would just luv to know your view...



cheers

Push!

Of Life, deadlines and “dead” ”lions??”

Got thinking when I read a post by a fellow blogger on the suicide of a small gal. What is life after all, if its gonna be so easy to give up!!

When even habits rather Obsessions which we pick up after a good 10years after the first wink are hard to give up, I wonder how people easily give up their right to exist.!

Who on earth does not have disappointments with life!

Some have it small, Some have it big…

But things called Deadlines and money drive the life!

Be it the tenure in mom’s womb or the warmth of parents’ lap… everything comes with a deadline. By the age of 3 years, the warmth of the lap has to be forsaken to the comfort of bed, then comes the ever imposing educational deadlines..!!!

When every thing in life is so damn time defined…. I wonder if I should call the ppl who commit suicide dead chickens or dead lions who bravely evaded the DEADLINES!!

Confused huh! That’s what I m now!! Thanks to the FEVER!

Cheers
Push!

Fever Fiesta

When you are down with soaring temperature, an absolutely sick head and a tongue that finds everything bitter....all you do is swallow the pills and sleep!
but suddenly u wake n smell the aroma of hot molaga bhajji ....! wat do u do!!
mom refuses to make one...neither can u escape to the corner shop for bhajji!!
All that you can do is wait patiently for the guest to leave and then head to the marina for smacking bhajji feast!!


cheers
pushkala

Of Likes, Expectations and Ofcourse Life!!

A month long hiatus from Blogging was broken by an inspiring conversation i has with one my buddies!
She having Just got into an ARRANGED Commitment had loads to share! We just got talking how Arranged and Acceptable the whole process of Arranged marriage is.
We hit upon the PIE formula...
Physical, Intellectual and Emotional Equation, with the order of importance being EIP.

The beauty of Indian Arranged Marriage System is the neatness with which it executes the Singledom. Be it the guy or the gal, they gracefully lose the goodness of Singledom and venture into the world of their own.

Least Important ones first..

Physical Equation: You might call it unworthy and cheap to look into one's external appearance.
But there is more it, is what i heard. The Face is the index of mind. Period.
I was reminded of a Reader's Digest Article that elucidated the some 17 steps for finding a relationship that lasts longer.
If i m not wrong, they did cite Appearance factor. Its more to do with how you can mentally attach yourself to someone who you are comfortable with.
Intellectual: Well, there is nothing as effective as conversation. Be it a conversation through the language of words or the language of Silence.
A conversation (not an Argument!!!!!!!!!!!) That keeps the people involved is a sign of companionship. Be it the reciprocation of ideas (views) or the openness’ in accepting things or the assertiveness in stressing things or the topic itself; the comfort level each other possess is of prime importance
Emotional: To Emote is one of the signs of Life is any form of Living being.
The Emotional Equation is The deciding factor for any relationship. Hidden behind those Spoken and Unspoken words is an Emotion that is the TRUE SELF of the person. It is this Emotional Quotient that tries to come out through the Gestures, Words, Silences, Smilies, Gifts and what not.
More than often, we are carried away by these mediums of expression that we forget to compliment the emotion. Acknowledging each other's emotion is a sure sign of the longitivity of the relationship..

Well; for all these aspects to hit the bulls eye, there are three other factors that must be kept in mind ,
EXPECTATIONS : Of all the 1001 likes a person mite have in his life, there could a few of them that he would Expect from his Companion.. ! So, its all the more important to know thyself before one might venture looking for COMPANION.

DESTINY: Being a Hindu by faith, I seriously couldn’t wrap this post without the mention of the DIVINITY. For all that’s said here, HE holds the WAND that would lead one on the right path.



OOOPSS... been a long post... be it this post or the process of Likes, Expectations and Of course LIFE is worth every moment that’s spent.

Cheers!
Suha