Phew… a post on relationship here again!
A blissful singledom metamorphoses into eventful commitment. If this sound just a mix of English alphabets and phonetics…..Wait… you have to know more about this.
This is lot about clarity, instinctive judgments, confidence, diplomacy, sense of timing et al.
A big decision, high stakes, life meanders around a word that is gona come out. A kiddo until a week before whose major decisions included the accessories that would best match the dress, the movie worth watching over the weekend, the shop that had the best bangles in the city, now would have to decide on the GO-- NO GO with respect to the potential suitor,
Clarity in thoughts is one big asset , it makes life so simple and easy. Needless confusions could be avoided if a person is clear about his stand on the issues that might bother the topic.
Nothing works wonderfully as instinctive sense. Trust what your heart feels and believe what your mind says. If the choice is gone be right both these would resonate the music together making it MUSIC for life.
Confidence, not just on oneself but on the whole institution of marriage is what is needed here. There is no point in walking down the aisle with doubts about the success of the relationship or about the person. Believe me, if you don’t get a sense of confidence on the person, there is always gona be a little nag in your mind making things worst for you.
Confidence at this point of time is more Instinctive than factual. But Instinctive Confidence would lead you to the Factual confidence. If you are satisfied with the person in the acquaintance mode, it would propel you to learn more about the person (Factual).
Diplomacy..huh one big tool of all the Spin Doctors. The art of Diplomacy blooms when the elections come in..Varied hues of statements and counter statements very subtlety putting across the message that There are no permanent friends nor enemies in Politics.
Talk of relationship in the same breathe, a lot depends on how we convey one’s feelings.
Not every feeling carries the same weightage and this weightage is again highly subjective. The best way is to apply diplomacy, Stress on what is need to be stressed and plainly mention what needs to be mentioned. The cliché is what just need to given a mention need not be given a explanation. Undue importance might take you on rough seas.
Sense of timing!! How aboutt waking Einstein in the middle of the night and talking Greek mythology to him or stopping him between his interlude with his first wife ( VIOLIN) and explaining an equation! Worst isn’t it!
Timing helps a ton in making sure the same sentiment reflects across!
All said and done, Close your eyes and mutter a silent prayer… For
MAN PROPOSES and GOD DISPOSES.
Cheeers!
Pushkala!
8 comments:
So!!
All said and done its not in our control!!
Is that what you are hinting at?? :-)
Man proposes...but what if Mt.Horseman disposes? Can god do something about it? huh?? :)
I believe in one thing "when you are in doubt, ask you heart and do what it just says.". I do not trust my mind much because it is a big opportunist.
I very much agree to the fact that before one jumps into the commitment called arranged marriage, he/she gotta have 100% belief in it. More than that, you should also be ready to compromise and adjust yourself with the changes that is going to occur around you. Rather, I will say be ready to accommodate a very much alien person, who may sometime be really hard to go along with you. But, this is a compromise we have to make for our life to be better, if you are the one who trust "arranged marriage is the ultimate solution" :)
What in the blue hell ????
If i am right, more than half of the posts in your blog cover relationships, and a good deal of them are on the same issues, albeit in different words. Come on woman, grow up.
I know one is entitled to post whatever one feels in one's blog, and if i don't like it i can go to hell for all you care. Even so, this is way too much. For once, you would do better to post on some issues that matter.
I know you must be thinking "WTF???", but think of this as something to chew on.
yours truly,
Ar'Nath
U know wat abhi..all that i can do is just Smile/scorn at ur comment..!I know wat i need to take in.....Thanks for the comment anyways and i for once think i dont owe you an explanation on WHY I WRITE AND WAT I WRITE!
Hope i m clear here!
cheers
Suha!
Hmm.... Just as expected.
Whew! i can feel your hackles rising. My Lady, any explanations whatsoever were not expected. Just as well, the smile is welcomed not the scorn. Do excuse if i had been rude, but i felt that a comment like this was called for. Wish you a great day.
yours truly,
Ar'Nath
Let me ask in Prof Dumbleborish tone "Is there something you wish to tell me?"
Mind you lady, when you do, be prepared for earful! :-)
anyway, coming to the post now... I can see the clarity of thoughts and the knowledge of what-I-am-looking for in all your posts. That's the most important thing anyone getting into a relationship needs.
But on another note, too much pondering and too much thinking on this will throw up questions that even ones married for ages, cannot explain.
Last word... listen to your heart!!!
Preethi! i m so so so sorry! i should have given my friend for 7 long years the news myself! i was banglored di!
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