For a person who is candid and communicative..its easy expressing his thoughts ! thoughts,an expression of heart, feeling and soul, finds its shape in words!! but .. what about those who are introverts!! i started thinking about this issue... when i confronted a friend who was madly in love wih a girl but could hardly express it! i told him a number of times to go ahead and propse his love!! but his courage failed!! i mean.. i shouldnt use the word Failed... because he hardly tried speeling his thoughts aloud!!
its not jus him... mostof us turn introverts in certain situations! even the most communicative of us .. find it difficult expressing our thoughts..often when its most needed!! why is this happening??
maybe... when we are still not clear in our thoughts..our words get muffled and finally nothing reaches the other person!
wat ever its...its not gna help either anyone!! oops... y are my words failing me now!!!!
Wednesday, September 21, 2005
Tuesday, September 20, 2005
THE ULTIMATE INDIAN MARRIAGE
THE ULTIMATE INDIAN MARRIAGE
For a girl.. it beings the day her college life with the last day of her college life!!
Her mom’s sis quips..’ maybe we should start groom hunting now!!”
Her parents are brainwashed and are made to take the gal’s horoscope to the astrologer!!
After a series of calculations... the astrologer would predict the position of Saturn. GURU..!!
And thence would begin the search ..Which would even put google to shame!!?
The girl’s horoscope would be circulated amongst relatives…. Thanks to email –literate Indian parents; the horoscopes fly across the seas, over the mountains to reach a relative!!
Once the groom hunt begins... The entire vocabulary of the household changes…
The short listed grooms are mostly identified through their queer nicknames..
IIT paiyyan ….a guy who graduated from IIT
Thivaiyaaru paiyyan.. a guy with Thivaiyaaru as native
Rohini natchram paiiyan
Anda gothram inda gothram….vathima …vadaamaa… .
Jadakam
Sevva dossham
Tamil matrimony.com
Shaadi.com
Gosh…. The vocabulary is very very exhaustive!!
The girl initially makes her wish list and disappears. Once the parents decide on the intial short listed potential grooms, she makes an entry to make her final top 5!!
Before this is the very diplomatic move called “Pics Exchange”. Very ceremoniously, the parents of both the guy and the girl exchange the photos of their child!
The choice of the photo varies from casual (at home attire ) to formal ( aka Raymond) to gorgeous (a la Maduri Dixit) snaps!
I still wonder what people find out in photos.
Well … if found acceptable! ; then the alliance proceeds !
Else … “Has the other gal sent her pics!!! ..Lemme check the mail!!” attitude prevails!!!
For a girl.. it beings the day her college life with the last day of her college life!!
Her mom’s sis quips..’ maybe we should start groom hunting now!!”
Her parents are brainwashed and are made to take the gal’s horoscope to the astrologer!!
After a series of calculations... the astrologer would predict the position of Saturn. GURU..!!
And thence would begin the search ..Which would even put google to shame!!?
The girl’s horoscope would be circulated amongst relatives…. Thanks to email –literate Indian parents; the horoscopes fly across the seas, over the mountains to reach a relative!!
Once the groom hunt begins... The entire vocabulary of the household changes…
The short listed grooms are mostly identified through their queer nicknames..
IIT paiyyan ….a guy who graduated from IIT
Thivaiyaaru paiyyan.. a guy with Thivaiyaaru as native
Rohini natchram paiiyan
Anda gothram inda gothram….vathima …vadaamaa… .
Jadakam
Sevva dossham
Tamil matrimony.com
Shaadi.com
Gosh…. The vocabulary is very very exhaustive!!
The girl initially makes her wish list and disappears. Once the parents decide on the intial short listed potential grooms, she makes an entry to make her final top 5!!
Before this is the very diplomatic move called “Pics Exchange”. Very ceremoniously, the parents of both the guy and the girl exchange the photos of their child!
The choice of the photo varies from casual (at home attire ) to formal ( aka Raymond) to gorgeous (a la Maduri Dixit) snaps!
I still wonder what people find out in photos.
Well … if found acceptable! ; then the alliance proceeds !
Else … “Has the other gal sent her pics!!! ..Lemme check the mail!!” attitude prevails!!!
Sunday, September 18, 2005
WHY DO U DO THIS TO ME??
I guess this is the sentence is the root of many arguments
Arguments between teenaged children and their parents..Argument between lovers … arguments between husband and wives.. Argument between ur manager and u!!
Each of us need a degree of importance attached to us. More often we want this degree of importance to be explicit. Latent respect / regard doesn’t serve the purpose today !!
I have seen relationships go sour because of the lack of exhibiting one’s love!!
I this world of attractive advertisements… even the most delicate and closest of relationship need EXPLICIT EXHIBITION of affection.
I wonder as to why…..public exhibition of affection has become pivotal in the relationships of heart!!
The only reply I gather is that…. It’s a way of reassuring each other of the love between them!
I recently heard a close friend of mine confide that he broke away with his sweet heart just because he was unable to tell her how much he still loved her!!! And that he did not want her to keep yearning for his coaxy words !
I was just dumbstruck… well, I think.. This relationship should mature with time and the adversities it faces!!
Breaking apart for silly reasons like “ degree of importance “ factor ..Actually mitigates the worth of going further in that relationship!
So next time u ask ur beloved one “ WHY do u do this to me?? ?? “ ..kindly think .. is the havoc really needed!!
I guess this is the sentence is the root of many arguments
Arguments between teenaged children and their parents..Argument between lovers … arguments between husband and wives.. Argument between ur manager and u!!
Each of us need a degree of importance attached to us. More often we want this degree of importance to be explicit. Latent respect / regard doesn’t serve the purpose today !!
I have seen relationships go sour because of the lack of exhibiting one’s love!!
I this world of attractive advertisements… even the most delicate and closest of relationship need EXPLICIT EXHIBITION of affection.
I wonder as to why…..public exhibition of affection has become pivotal in the relationships of heart!!
The only reply I gather is that…. It’s a way of reassuring each other of the love between them!
I recently heard a close friend of mine confide that he broke away with his sweet heart just because he was unable to tell her how much he still loved her!!! And that he did not want her to keep yearning for his coaxy words !
I was just dumbstruck… well, I think.. This relationship should mature with time and the adversities it faces!!
Breaking apart for silly reasons like “ degree of importance “ factor ..Actually mitigates the worth of going further in that relationship!
So next time u ask ur beloved one “ WHY do u do this to me?? ?? “ ..kindly think .. is the havoc really needed!!
Saturday, September 17, 2005
DUETS Vs DUELS
I happen to meet two of my batch mates from college today. After the regular Vetti kadais ...We got talking about love, lovers etc..
The first thing I asked my friends-both of them are commited ,was “do u miss ur guys ?“ bang came their reply …. “nowazz,, y would I miss him ? What if I don’t see him every other day! I do talk with him!! So no missing him business!!”
my conclusion :: Remove the song “ evano oruvan vaasikiraam…” from Alaipaayuthae..
The next question…
“Do u fight?? Who starts the fight?? “
their reply … “we fight .. we fight like dogs!! All language rules are grounded!! “
my other friend who was celebrating her 4 anniversary said …. “the first month was the only period sans war…!! Duels were more than duets!! “
my conclusion :: duels were more than duets!!
The question::
“When do your guys get angry???”
Their reply:: “ whenever they want .. For whatever they want!!”
They did explain …
Every time..The fourth ring from their guy goes unanswered……a fight begins~ demanding the reason for delay!!!
Every time… the mobile is switched off…..a fight begins demanding the reason for that
Every time u say “ I m held up with an important work ….a fight begins reasoning whether he isn’t important
Every time .. u say “dad asked me to get home early !”….a fight begins!!
The other reasons they voiced seemed out of the world…I jus started wondering .. if they were in love with a male over 21 ….or whether a toddler around 2.1
Finally ….. I learnt…love laughs for a month….smiles for the next six months… goes grin throughout the following year..
And after a year …. U just need to search for the smile ….!! Its back to business!!
Ultimately:
My friends conclusion::: “ SUHA… NEE MOVIES PAATHU ROMBA INFLUENCE AAGIRKAAA!! AVOID SEEING ROMANTIC MOVIES IF U WANT TO GETOFF THE FILMY IMAGE AND WANNA C THE REAL ONE !“
I happen to meet two of my batch mates from college today. After the regular Vetti kadais ...We got talking about love, lovers etc..
The first thing I asked my friends-both of them are commited ,was “do u miss ur guys ?“ bang came their reply …. “nowazz,, y would I miss him ? What if I don’t see him every other day! I do talk with him!! So no missing him business!!”
my conclusion :: Remove the song “ evano oruvan vaasikiraam…” from Alaipaayuthae..
The next question…
“Do u fight?? Who starts the fight?? “
their reply … “we fight .. we fight like dogs!! All language rules are grounded!! “
my other friend who was celebrating her 4 anniversary said …. “the first month was the only period sans war…!! Duels were more than duets!! “
my conclusion :: duels were more than duets!!
The question::
“When do your guys get angry???”
Their reply:: “ whenever they want .. For whatever they want!!”
They did explain …
Every time..The fourth ring from their guy goes unanswered……a fight begins~ demanding the reason for delay!!!
Every time… the mobile is switched off…..a fight begins demanding the reason for that
Every time u say “ I m held up with an important work ….a fight begins reasoning whether he isn’t important
Every time .. u say “dad asked me to get home early !”….a fight begins!!
The other reasons they voiced seemed out of the world…I jus started wondering .. if they were in love with a male over 21 ….or whether a toddler around 2.1
Finally ….. I learnt…love laughs for a month….smiles for the next six months… goes grin throughout the following year..
And after a year …. U just need to search for the smile ….!! Its back to business!!
Ultimately:
My friends conclusion::: “ SUHA… NEE MOVIES PAATHU ROMBA INFLUENCE AAGIRKAAA!! AVOID SEEING ROMANTIC MOVIES IF U WANT TO GETOFF THE FILMY IMAGE AND WANNA C THE REAL ONE !“
Friday, September 16, 2005
WILL GEMINIANS EVEN LEARN TO GET COMMITED ??
Born on june 5th, I fall under the sunsign of Gemini..the Air sign!
Geminans are utterly whimsical nd fickle ..known to be a fun package
They are very good company!
Not to forget ..they re one of the biggest flirts next only to themselves!
I ve every trait of it.. And it reflects in me…..
But there is one miserable trait I love to change
Gemini’s never get easily committed to anything... be it men, art, books whatever..!
Their ever wandering mind...strains when forced to remain stable!!
I love art …art of any form has a patron in me…
my short lived stint with Bhartnatym, music , poetry, writing , linguistics are all reflections of the Gemini in me.
True to the Jill of all trades label…. I went places not exactly with my talent but for learning them!!
Fortunately with parents ready to spend upon my interests I indeed got trained from few of the best teachers … slowly but steadily I was getting noticed for my talents!
So far so good… the trouble arose with the sustenance of the interest!
The interest seemed to wane from its shining full moon glory to nothingness…
The rate of waning depended more on my mood rather than on the complexity of the art form or time! Soon ..i started fishing out reasons to bunk classes…reasons to escape practicing at home …slowly ..The inclination to learn an art bent its head!!
Jus the inclination to master the art had disappeared.. Not the love for the art form!!!
Every now and then..It did sprout up! But I decided not to take the gamble...
I m still awaiting for the day.. I feel….. I can take up lessons ...Lessons to its completion!!
coomitmnt holds the key to this!!
Commitment …….. Happens when u are ready to do anything! Anything encompasses everything from liking to sacrifices!!
Well... I m being so inconsistent in my commitment quotient.. I wonder... What my stand would be in larger emotional commitments awaiting me in my life!!!
Will my good Stars drop in a bit of sense in me…!???
Hey wait… I can no longer commit myself to the topic… here comes the next thought……………….
Well …so why am I linking it to the sun signs……?? What an easy way to justify oneself!!! Do I smell an Attitude issue here??
Next thought……”lemme make a cup of hot coffee. or kaapi !
Born on june 5th, I fall under the sunsign of Gemini..the Air sign!
Geminans are utterly whimsical nd fickle ..known to be a fun package
They are very good company!
Not to forget ..they re one of the biggest flirts next only to themselves!
I ve every trait of it.. And it reflects in me…..
But there is one miserable trait I love to change
Gemini’s never get easily committed to anything... be it men, art, books whatever..!
Their ever wandering mind...strains when forced to remain stable!!
I love art …art of any form has a patron in me…
my short lived stint with Bhartnatym, music , poetry, writing , linguistics are all reflections of the Gemini in me.
True to the Jill of all trades label…. I went places not exactly with my talent but for learning them!!
Fortunately with parents ready to spend upon my interests I indeed got trained from few of the best teachers … slowly but steadily I was getting noticed for my talents!
So far so good… the trouble arose with the sustenance of the interest!
The interest seemed to wane from its shining full moon glory to nothingness…
The rate of waning depended more on my mood rather than on the complexity of the art form or time! Soon ..i started fishing out reasons to bunk classes…reasons to escape practicing at home …slowly ..The inclination to learn an art bent its head!!
Jus the inclination to master the art had disappeared.. Not the love for the art form!!!
Every now and then..It did sprout up! But I decided not to take the gamble...
I m still awaiting for the day.. I feel….. I can take up lessons ...Lessons to its completion!!
coomitmnt holds the key to this!!
Commitment …….. Happens when u are ready to do anything! Anything encompasses everything from liking to sacrifices!!
Well... I m being so inconsistent in my commitment quotient.. I wonder... What my stand would be in larger emotional commitments awaiting me in my life!!!
Will my good Stars drop in a bit of sense in me…!???
Hey wait… I can no longer commit myself to the topic… here comes the next thought……………….
Well …so why am I linking it to the sun signs……?? What an easy way to justify oneself!!! Do I smell an Attitude issue here??
Next thought……”lemme make a cup of hot coffee. or kaapi !
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