Wednesday, November 12, 2008
The Feeling that Was....
But there are few feelings that you would want to cherish but alas life snatches it away rather rudely!
Remember how you felt when India won the 20 -20 world cup... U would have wished that moment to prevail...!!
There are harsher moments life presents to its patrons, for instance ask a lady who has just had a miscarriage what it feels to be pregnant. She would have been deprieved of "feeling pregnant" even b4 she realised she was.
Ask the young lovers who have just broken up about love... They have already parted ways even before they could acknowledge the love they share...
But as always, all this bring in a dawn of realisation. Realisation abt what is important, what is transient!! Above all, it just reminds us, Man proposes God Disposes... and i believe God knows what He is up; So, incase He disapproves of our proposal.. Trust His instincts.... HE is always right!
Tuesday, July 08, 2008
poorna's songs
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Brickbats welcome!
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
The Wait
She would have called if she knows she would be late.
No clue what plans she would have for the weekend. I wanted take her to the temple. Maybe she would be catching up with her friends or would be working on weekends or would be huddled in her room married to her computer for two full days.
What would she want for the dinner? Maybe her regular chapattis and dal sabji or maybe she would want to indulge in rich pulav?
This girl drives me crazy, keeps me guessing what she is up to."
Suddenly, she glances on the photo hung in the drawing room. Its the Wedding Snap of her daughter.
A drop of tear greets the onset of realization.
All that remains are her thoughts that are here to stay!
Weird, Isn’t it! A mom would love to have her daughter married ("married away" = "Kalyanam panni Kodukardhu" in Tambram vocab) and yet would put on the pain of being away from her daughter...However said Childbirth meant lot of joyous pain, maybe Childbirth is the beginning of lots of joyous pain.
Monday, April 07, 2008
"Silence is Golden"
The wait continued...
If you were wondering what "IT" reffered to.. its THOUGHTS. How would it feel to suppress a person who is active in thoughts ( though i woundnt use the term THOUGHTFUL here) and equally active with spoken words. Wait, if you didnt understand my previous sentence, i was just wondering how tough it would be for a TALKATIVE person to bundle up thoughts and all those spoken/unspoken words.
I find the term TALKATIVE derogatory in the first place. Might be Silence saves us from all those avoidable conflicts and misunderstandings.. but that doesnt mean that all so called SILENT people are saintly.
Silence has to be followed under certain circumstaces, agreed, but people who hail silence as virtue really intrigue me. No fault of theirs, and not fault of mine too... They have their right to remain silent and I have my right to take a stand on their silence. A talkative person knows what a great deal of mental and verbal control ( rudely put, Numbness) yeilds a silent person. Maybe being Silent shields the individual from avoidable problems, tussles and misunderstanding. With the elementary ground rule, "Words once said cannot be taken back" prevailing, Silence is surely a winner of the race.. but is it really worth keeping thoughts to yourself and wondering if it would be right to talk.
Might be Timing is the key... As they say in Tamizh, EDAM PORUL AEVAL are the important aspects here too ...
Well.. this is a talkative post, agreed.. but blogs are not for adhering SILENCE obdiently, or is it ?
Monday, March 03, 2008
Everybody loves Raymond
Be it Mr.Confused Ray Barone or Mrs.KnowItAll Marie or Mr.IDontCare Frank or Mr.NobodyLikesMe Robert or the cutie pie Mrs.Shout&Apologise Debra... they are all so natural and give the viewers the feeling of peeping into somebody's home.
Well... as someone been into HOMEMAKER status very recently, it fun seeing the bubble burst in a household..which attimes makes me laugh at my own actions...
On the whole.... I mite have been 10 years late to the FRIENDS and Everybody Loves Raymond cult in Dubayaland..but i m loving it...loving it bigtime..
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Unintentional Seeds for Intention
She looked around her, wondering What has she done to be adamaned?
What her faults were?
Lost in thoughts, she suddenly remembered that her bangles were not matching her Silk Skirt ( Pattu Pavadai)
She runs into the Drawing room, shouting,"Ammmaaa.....I want Vera (different) color Valayal (Bangles)"... only to find her mom trying to put on a pair of black and gold bangles into the hands of the cute little new born. The whole family was looking on ...and to her it seemed her presence was never felt.
A simple incident of sowing seeds of sibling rivalry... Gosh .. scares me ! How many such Unintentional actions could have triggered grudge and hatred in others!!
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Home Engineering!
Confused.. welcome to my new avatar!!
Friday, September 14, 2007
Into Rabbit’s hole or In Wonderland!!
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A simple girl falling into a Rabbit hole could have triggered a Pathetic Story of Miss-venture but Lewis Carroll had the sense to celebrate even this crisis.
The Miss-venture was cleverly tuned into an adventure that has managed to lull thousands of kids across the globe.
Well …this is all life is!
All of us have our own pet assortments of pressures, concerns, worries, issues, qualms et al, but maybe we can make a festival out of them all!
It’s after all A SPECIAL OCCASION called “LIFE”
Monday, September 10, 2007
Forward!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman ......"What kind of man are you looking for?"She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking."Do you really want to know?"Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."She began to expound... As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more." I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.She said, " I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man." I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... Believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection. Financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong Enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.He said, "You're asking a lot."She replied, " I'm worth a lot."
Oh! all i could say after i read this was ... " HOW TRUE". Marriage brings to families together and more importantly, two individuals who are open and ready to respect each other.!!!
I m sure my Mr.Right would be mumbling " not another Relationship post!!!"
all is far in love,war and ofcourse with words,dude!!
Cheers
Pushkala
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Chennapatinam..Madras..Chennai...wat next ?
Apeethu!
Pushkala!
Saturday, June 16, 2007
Blog-ationship!
Some asked me the reason i blog.
1) Is it plain Vetti Kirukals?
Why would a person showcase his vettiness to the world? Is it not a blessing to be Busy!!
2) A display of one's literary Skills!
Could be, but do people really spend so much time and effort to appreciate the language. "NO"
3) A Despo attempt to be heard!!
Take a life!!! All this is too virtual to harp on!
4) Think aloud and get new perspectives!
Well..one logical reason..But Why think aloud!!
Well... the person have me one logical conclusion.... he felt its the exhibitionistic attitude in each of the blogger that make him write!
well..I got thinking on that note.... Are we real like minded EXHIBITIONISTS who want to show the world ..they think!
On the flip side, who isnt exhibitionistic. !
The nature is exhibitionistic with its myriad hues and shades. If showing a sign means being exhibitionistic, then every odd movement, action, gesture, deed,word,moment are an exhibition of the life in us.
Nothing wrong in telling the world I EXIST...!
Even the staunchest of the Himalayan recluse comes down to the town for the kumbh mela...so is it an Exhibition of his faith....Nopez...its just the way of telling the world their way of life!
Well I m signing off as an confused soul wondering about the relationship i have with this blog!!!
Thanks to Mr.Confuser for making me wonder about this Blogationship
Cheers
Suha
Saturday, May 26, 2007
Docked between Ships!
But this would be only until another ship docks on the other side of the individual. Caught between two mighty Ships – Friendship and Relationship, the individual has the options shrinking !
That SMS which got the person started, now would a very diplomatic reply-‘Held up’.
How beautifully it conveys the message, I am busy with something more important than my best buddy.
Well, nothing wrong with this sentiment though, Priorities keep shifting all through out life.
But the precariousness of this Caught between Ships thingy is that, both a friend and a potential spouse are people whom you can dare to be absolutely yourself. And Courtship is a period when the affinity towards the potential spouse gets so strong that we subconsciously want to spend every available moment with that person.
Friends, somehow never even get a moment with the individual to express how happy the friends are for him/her.
A friend who has laughed out for the bluntest of teaser pulls a long face for not picking up a call. A friend who perfectly understands every vibe suddenly feels let down!
Maybe this is beauty of the whole marriage process.
It gives in a person who is a strong but subtlety expressed replacement for almost all relationships. Be it that of a father, mother, sibling and even best buddy!
Both these ships are strong, dependable and lot depends on how one steers and anchors the ships.
One need not be a captain of these ships to ensure things are fine, one can also sit back and enjoy the beauty of ocean (while the chosen captain steers the ship) but ensure you trust the captain and ship completely. One cannot enjoy seeing the serenity in nature’s lap when the Stench of a bad choice hangs over.
“Figure’aa paatha odanae Friend’aa cut panivititiyae da”
Suha
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
Perception of Perceptions!!
Man is a rational animal, this rationality is condensed into a single word called perception. He Thinks and hence Perceives.
‘Perception’ itself can be perceived in many views. The whole world can perceive the same view or can differ thereby providing a spectrum of opinions.
The Universally Singular perception about day and night makes the world sleep while the stars are up and work while the sun is in his glory. The plurality of perceptions makes a life out of "livingdom".
Now how much of plurality in perceptions is digestible?
It all starts with swallowing the truth that CHANGE IS THE ONLY THING THAT NEVER CHANGES.
Perceptions exhibit the elementary characters of MATTER. PERCEPTIONS (Opinions), once created, Can change from one form to another but can never be destroyed.
The difference between Perception is just the difference between Knowledge and Ignorance. Once something is known or learnt or in otherwords something is PERCIEVED it cannot be unlearnt. The Perception on the topic/thing/person/emotion can change but the can not be destroyed or reverted back to the state called IGNORANCE. May be this is why Ignorance is called Bliss!
The change in perception can be as gradual as Evaporation-Condesation-Percipitation-Evaporation Cycle or as quick as a sublimation process or as gradual as the formation of Stalagmites , the end result is that, the change keeps happening either for the better of the PERCEPTION or for the betterment of the individual who perceives it.
Well, if the blog seems too be in nano-physicist or material scientist’ic terms to you ( I speak my heart out in my blogs!!) , here is a dash of Spirituality. The very own Sanatana Dharma, ‘Hinduism’ advocates the concept of MAYA. MAYA..a beautiful word that reminds the Mortals, Do perceive think but also be reminded that What you see is not what it is.
MAYA generates something for everyone and that something from nothing at all.
So Let the MaYa of your Perception of my Perception of Perception Prevail....!!
Cheers
Push!
Monday, April 30, 2007
A Toast for Commitment!
A blissful singledom metamorphoses into eventful commitment. If this sound just a mix of English alphabets and phonetics…..Wait… you have to know more about this.
This is lot about clarity, instinctive judgments, confidence, diplomacy, sense of timing et al.
Nothing works wonderfully as instinctive sense. Trust what your heart feels and believe what your mind says. If the choice is gone be right both these would resonate the music together making it MUSIC for life.
Confidence at this point of time is more Instinctive than factual. But Instinctive Confidence would lead you to the Factual confidence. If you are satisfied with the person in the acquaintance mode, it would propel you to learn more about the person (Factual).
Talk of relationship in the same breathe, a lot depends on how we convey one’s feelings.
Not every feeling carries the same weightage and this weightage is again highly subjective. The best way is to apply diplomacy, Stress on what is need to be stressed and plainly mention what needs to be mentioned. The cliché is what just need to given a mention need not be given a explanation. Undue importance might take you on rough seas.
Timing helps a ton in making sure the same sentiment reflects across!
MAN PROPOSES and GOD DISPOSES.
Cheeers!
Pushkala!
Thursday, April 19, 2007
Dare To Risk?
We would have never come out of caves had nt that Early Ancestor of ours not taken the risk of venturing out. how many of us are willing to take a risk?
Well ..welll ... welll...!forget hitting moon or living in Antartica... there are many incidents wherin we prefer to remain one amongst the crowd ...STAY SAFE attitude is in abundance.
The reasons we give range from "WORDS" like PRACTICALITY, FEASIBLITY, SUSTAINABILITY, ABILITY et al..
But do we understand that all these words ( including the remote kin and kith of these words that mite feature in the context) are all subjective to a SINGLE FACTOR and that is YOU.
PRACTICALITY is a very weird word... what might have been written off as not possible by a person could actually be possible with your attitude.. and to decide whether something is gona work out or not, one should actually take a chance ..DARE to RISK atleast DARE TO THINK rather than writing it off in the first instance.
Having taken the risk to read thru blog....i agree there people with true bold DHIL!
Risking Brickbats
push!
Friday, April 13, 2007
Thinking about thoughts!
Be it the mosquito Coil on face effect or Wordsworth'ish Daffodils effect ..Thinking abt past and abt things that are beyond repair has always been a habit with homosapiens -Phylum vertebrata.
Well.. its so happened that i belong to the same phylum and hence exhibit the traits of the same.... the post below Elucidates the same.!
Thoughts that Ate the Travel Time Today! ( Mosquito COIL Swirls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
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How should one react when someone acts too smart and tries to hurt to you.
Though i belive its the other person's wish to try to be rude to one... to be hurt or not is entirely the individual's disposition. To Ignore, smile away rude comments always always don't help or do they?
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Life is all about GETTING USED TO...! True....but can you get used to everything life offers you... Isnt life not about figuring out the options and chances oneself?
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Relationships arise out of chemistry between the pairs but it changes the physics that they have with others. Have had lot of chances to observe the attitude of people before and after they commited into Relationship. Well... its understandable that the folks are in the hyper enthu phase to know each other well ,get the relationship going strong and hence land up showering all their attention and time on each other. A very collegish attitude of SHE IS MY GAL sets in!
Why even the seemingly mature ones showcase this. Well,,a small observation...Public display is perhaps also a mature manifestation of SHE IS MY GAL or HE IS MINE attitude!
Whatever it .. IT IS SICK!
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Last but not the least of my pointless ponder...How do i wish the folks tomorrow..
HAPPY TAMIL NEW YEAR Day
TAMIZH Putaandu nal vazthukal
Happy TAMIZH New Year day
illa verum GUdmorningaa .. illa Summa irundaalae Vidunjudumaa?
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GOD BLESS MY READERS!!
Cheers
Push!
Saturday, April 07, 2007
Old.Bold..Cold Attitude!
The attitude of the youngsters towards elders struck me hard. I m no Miss.PATIENT, MISS.TOLERANT types but I always insist on a quality called ENDURANCE. Elders predominantly fall into three categories: they are either too conservative to accept our views or too rigid with theirs or they are open to our ideas.. but one can never take them for granted , you would never know how they would react!
I m not being judgemental about the beloved PAATI THAATAs at our home! They are truely a treasure! But is our attitude conveying the message that we Value them.
For once, Not everything could be understood implicitly, there are few things that have to be told and Elders need things to be told to them.
They could be annoying or at times even irritating but believe me more patient our approach is, more learnings will happen from their end.
I m going to visit a OLD AGE home today. I m doing this against my policy of NEVER TO ENCOURAGE OLD AGE HOMES... but today i feeel, they need a patient ear and may be one or two considerate words!! Even now I start half heartedly....I just hope i have a peaceful sleep tonight!
(This is the only Post in this blog where i have literally lamented my first PERSONAL Thoughts! Oooops... i need an Outlet ( N' Blog serves the purpose) and so do the countless old ppl in the home ( N' hope i serve the purpose today!) ... I just realised it and i m heading there!! )
cheers
Push!
Friday, March 30, 2007
Chemistry of relationships!!
Few fall in love in the FIRST SIGHT ( phew.. a biological Reaction(#1) fastened by CATALYST called LOOKS/APPEARANCE)
Few fall in love gradually ( A reaction (#2) that happens at OPTIMUM CONDITIONS)
Few start of as FRIENDSHIP and turn it to a RELATIONSHIP( A reaction (# 3) that got misled!!)
Or an arranged agreement to fall I love (a planned reaction (#4) with tons of catalysts, with proper conditions set!!)
Well, I don’t have a big opinion on the chemical Reaction #1.
Relationships be it friendship or marital ones has to be borne over a period of time. Faith and trust cannot be built over night is what I strongly believe.
Reaction #2, is relatively better. But there is one thing that might upset the reaction. Courtship is a tricky period wherein it’s the GOODNESS that comes out in full form.
The element of vice be it as trivial as quick temper or social drinking is subconsciously either not revealed by the person or subconsciously not registered by the other person.
Courtship again has to mature over sometime.. But unfortunately the trend is that people either get bored of each other soon or they PERSON of INTEREST changes with the clock ticks!
Reaction #3, Mixing Friendship and relationship….this is one tricky subject to analyze. Given the fact the FRIENDS would know each other inside out …I have somehow not patronized the idea of mixing relationships.
Every relationship should be clearly demarcated.
Friendship across sexes means the physical attraction factor has been nullified. This is presume is the reason why FRIENDSHIP is given special status.
Now, turning such a pure sentiment into a RELATIONSHIP means contaminating it with the CARNAL Factor.
The worst part of the this reaction is that… even if there is just friendship and clean friendship, people around tend to hallucinate a lot and hence conjure a reaction when there is actually nothing brewing.
It takes in lot of maturity to handle a crisis like this, wherein FRIENDSHIP is at stake for the people around!
More so, One who has a picture perfect vision on the kind of person he or she wants could be pretty sure hit in REACTION #3. But unfortunately most of us do not strike with a consistent opinion. As the rule says, Change is the only thing that never changes.
That leaves you with Reaction #4, you really need not have a “MY IDEAL PICTURE” vision. Rather a vague , gazy , CIRCA 1700 picture would serve the purpose !
The whole beauty of arranged marriage lies in the fact that you start with the belief that its going to work out. And this belief metamorphosis into TRUST and faith..
Been a long post….
I believe.. I m gona come back soon with another post…on relationships obviously!!!!
Cheers
Suha!
Sunday, March 18, 2007
Prior 2 Priorities
I wonder what amount of thinking goes behind defining the Priorities.
Defining priorities by itself is a priority.
Now, wat makes me talk abt priorities....Its just this, a friend happened compose a 60 questions sheet which he feels covers all the topics which are important to him., lest he misses something while conversing with a potential suitor.
I was thoroughly amused and angry when i saw that questionnaire.
It makes no sense in making a person sit through with a paper and fill in the details as if its just another exam.
Having said this, not all ppl are vocal and confidant enough to voice their thoughts, so this questionnaire might just be an ice breaker.
One thing of all impressed me mightly, the person who composed this has pumped in ample energy, good will, intention and time to understand his priorities and order them.
Though, i dont approve of the Questionnaire exchange method, I am happy ppl have started understanding their WANTS. For matrimony is one topic wherein you must be clear about the difference between your expectations and wants!
Now if you had expected a neat decent post... i m sorry... and yeah! if you want to comment-- I would just luv to know your view...
cheers
Push!
Friday, March 02, 2007
Of Life, deadlines and “dead” ”lions??”
Some have it small, Some have it big…
But things called Deadlines and money drive the life!
Cheers
Push!