How effective is this process? Is it a controllable process or a uncontrollable process If at all it is a controlled process... Why aren’t we able to wipe out the vices…? Assuming vices take root in thoughts and then in actions .Incase intensions are indeed a subset of thought! Then why isn’t there purity in intensions! .why aren’t we able to control them
Why is the following reaction so disastrous!! ?
My thoughts + my actions ---> Consequences + (latent products like disappointments in others)
Why is it, we find a strain of Animal characteristics in all of us? The degree of predominance of that strain varies invariably though!
Assuming that the thought process as a Uncontrollable process!
Y in first place is it uncontrollable? Are we slaves of our thoughts! Isn’t it obsolete to say that we have the sixth sense!
If at all thought process is going to be so uncontrollable... Then why blame/praise anyone for whatever they do. After all... They don’t have a say over their thoughts!
Its their thoughts that direct them!
Oops! What have typed in!
Now don’t blame me... Blame my thoughts!
Thursday, February 23, 2006
Sunday, February 19, 2006
Southy Gal Syndrome!
It all started when I, for the first time, came face to face with people of utterly diverse backgrounds (Thanks to the training my company was putting me through).
Here started the Study of Southy Gal Syndrome..
First day, we were supposed to assemble in the auditorium.
The first job, first day excitement, guess what... there came the first hit on the Southy gals.
First day decent look for we southy ones meant Crisp Cotton chudidar, properly plaited hair, a set of earrings, neatly plaited hair(read no strands of hair over the face!), flat or platform sandals, one simple bracelet and a watch. Oops! Did I forget the bindi! A bindi with or without traces of kumkum or sandlewood paste above it!
This was how we gals were. By South Indian standards, this would be more than elegant. It looks refreshingly pleasing!
We are into the corporate society! Guess who taught us this early lesson.? The North Indian Girls. The looked like they were right out from a corporate meeting! Pinstriped suits with a hair in bun or let loose with Matching Handbag (I m still wondering.. how do people match handbags with their dresses!)
Phew…! I don’t think even the heroines down south dress up so impeccably! The next thought that struck me was an utterly comical attempt to visualize myself in such a attire! A conclusion follows soon... “Yeah ... I do look good, if not better.” You see certain things are better if not probed too much and “will this attire suit me” was definitely one of them.
Soon came the next biggie issue... (Issue not really ... next Fact should I say) Names. The utmost stylish South Indian names would include few priyas, archanas, lavanyas,nityas!
Just look at the following conflict of names… Lavanya VS Lucky, Neha Vs Nandini , Soniya VS Sowjanya,..gosh!
Since names are least used by their owner, it is even more important that it becomes likable by others! But one thing for sure I m happy we don’t have names with complicated syllables now! I started looking around for elusive names such as “SenThamizhSelvi” Or some “MuthamizhCheZhiyan”! here again we lost to the name charm of those girls!
Soon it was the time to mingle! Mingle for south Indian girls largely meant speak to the girls from your state. A few daring ones (including me) did attempt to throw a “shall I know u! “ kinda smile at others irrespective of the diversity in the syllable last heard.
On the other hand, every attempt to speak to a North Indian girl would go in vain unless and until you speak or attempt to speak in Hindi(a typical doubt rules…mujae Hindi AAthi hain or AAthaa hain)! The reason is so simple, we simply didn’t exist!
My Day One came to an end. I start walking back home with lots of things to ponder about.
Throughout the training session, there was one aspect very evident in all most all North Indian Girls. Their Boldness! They were unassumingly bold.. ‘Unaassuming’ because they knew the consequence/impression their daringness might cast and yet chose to be so! For some unknown reason most of the South Indian girls play it low (albeit with exceptions like me!).
The most interesting venue for the comparative study was the Dance Floor.It took me lots of effort to bring a few South Indian girls to the dance floor.(lucky to have found couple of other Tamil gals with the same enthu level!). they came to the venue and there ends everything! They spent the whole evening watching the folks dance! Well we do need spectators to watch the folk rock right!
Having said all these, it now seems irresistible to avoid one more point( though I was deliberately trying to keep it away from hitting this article).
GUYS !
Be it workplace or classroom, its absolutely human to turn around when there are attractive people of the opposite gender! I found one mighty similarity amongst all guysin this aspect! They all seemed immensely enamored by the fair skin-straight hair of the North Indian girls!
I had enough friends and time in my training to observe this phenomenon. Though things like “knowing each other better “ did happen and lot of meaningful relationships did bloom, the preludes of the striking differences did stay alive in me. There was and is no antagonistic retraces on those preludes!
:)
Friday, January 13, 2006
Accepting people ........!
People rarely turn out to be what we expect them to be. we get unhappy with people when we dont find them according to what we want.
But why is that we often forget that every individual has his or her own individuality that one has to accept.
we are so obsessed about our conception of the other person that we find it difficult to accept the individual as he is.
may be, it rightly said that home is a place where we are accepted as we are and whatever we are.
Unfortunately, there are two situations wherin we forget to "Accept People" as they are.
one being the society, ...
how often have we spent more time in analysing other's life style... ranging from the divorce the celibrity took up to his recent showoff of power...! though it has got absolutely no significance to us .
or be it in relations... here again people are so obsessed with not just their wants but also they dictate as to how others should be.
its an expression of getting things go their way .. though a ver strong managerial aspect .. it hardly respects others for what they are ..(leave alone considering what they do)!!!
so i feel they key for any realtionship to succeed is to basically understand that there is the soul .. an individual alive and happening in the person infront of us!
this basic courtesy would solve half of the problems we create and fret these days !!!
i perfectly understand the pain the readers undergo while reading my typo ridden posts!!! so here i stop this post!!!!!!
But why is that we often forget that every individual has his or her own individuality that one has to accept.
we are so obsessed about our conception of the other person that we find it difficult to accept the individual as he is.
may be, it rightly said that home is a place where we are accepted as we are and whatever we are.
Unfortunately, there are two situations wherin we forget to "Accept People" as they are.
one being the society, ...
how often have we spent more time in analysing other's life style... ranging from the divorce the celibrity took up to his recent showoff of power...! though it has got absolutely no significance to us .
or be it in relations... here again people are so obsessed with not just their wants but also they dictate as to how others should be.
its an expression of getting things go their way .. though a ver strong managerial aspect .. it hardly respects others for what they are ..(leave alone considering what they do)!!!
so i feel they key for any realtionship to succeed is to basically understand that there is the soul .. an individual alive and happening in the person infront of us!
this basic courtesy would solve half of the problems we create and fret these days !!!
i perfectly understand the pain the readers undergo while reading my typo ridden posts!!! so here i stop this post!!!!!!
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
Faith ..........!!!?? !!
Faith is unfailing belief. Faith can be very powerful and can greatly influence our attitude.
to put things more effectively , Faith is one component that builds the hue of one's attitude.
If it is to be belived that man shapes his own destiny then ....faith is certainy the most effective tool in his hands.
how is faith built!
Faith takes its root in belief.
a belief that gets strongly rooted in one's heart and mind transforms into Faith.
A poor result or outcome might shatter the belief that one holds on something.
When failures Dont shatter the belief, then , its understood that the belief has metomnorphised into Faith.
Fortunately, a Faith on certain aspects has been instinctively found in all living things!
for instance, Faith on the parents for the fulfilment of basic needs.
The scope of "basic needs" varies immensely amongst across the genre of living organisms!
As in case of Homosapiens, Faith in parents nutures faith in teachers and so on and so froth.
But, there are two 'Faith Factors' that most of us forget or rather pay very less attention to.
One being , Faith on oneself....
Self belief is the strong conviction that one has about wat he is capable of.
Faith is unfailing self belief. this is one unique quality that will help him bounce back out of the most clumsiest and demading or rather even most degrading situations.
Self Faith is the only tool that will help him out of the situation for in this world no help is as reliable as self help.
Second being, Faith on the Almighty.............
This is the most controversial topics that the discussion forums have.
to belive or not to belive is another issue.. but to totally negate the power of Supreme seems to be the fashion today.
though i belive its totally unethical to intrude into anyone's personal choices..(the choice of Faith on Almighty included).. i m left to wonder as wat makes them lose the belief or abstain from the belief!
to put things more effectively , Faith is one component that builds the hue of one's attitude.
If it is to be belived that man shapes his own destiny then ....faith is certainy the most effective tool in his hands.
how is faith built!
Faith takes its root in belief.
a belief that gets strongly rooted in one's heart and mind transforms into Faith.
A poor result or outcome might shatter the belief that one holds on something.
When failures Dont shatter the belief, then , its understood that the belief has metomnorphised into Faith.
Fortunately, a Faith on certain aspects has been instinctively found in all living things!
for instance, Faith on the parents for the fulfilment of basic needs.
The scope of "basic needs" varies immensely amongst across the genre of living organisms!
As in case of Homosapiens, Faith in parents nutures faith in teachers and so on and so froth.
But, there are two 'Faith Factors' that most of us forget or rather pay very less attention to.
One being , Faith on oneself....
Self belief is the strong conviction that one has about wat he is capable of.
Faith is unfailing self belief. this is one unique quality that will help him bounce back out of the most clumsiest and demading or rather even most degrading situations.
Self Faith is the only tool that will help him out of the situation for in this world no help is as reliable as self help.
Second being, Faith on the Almighty.............
This is the most controversial topics that the discussion forums have.
to belive or not to belive is another issue.. but to totally negate the power of Supreme seems to be the fashion today.
though i belive its totally unethical to intrude into anyone's personal choices..(the choice of Faith on Almighty included).. i m left to wonder as wat makes them lose the belief or abstain from the belief!
Friday, December 23, 2005
LOC BETWEEN BEING COOL AND BEING CONSCIOUS
Being a cool person helps one to get off the most clumsy situation.
this is indeed a nice attitude!
afterall who doesnt like to be in the company of cool ppl!
but here again is a small but very strong trouble awaiting the cool dudes and more so for the cool dudettes so to say!
the most cool ones are taken for granted.. and they really dnt mind being taken for granted though..
but the trouble arises .. when the degree of being taken for granted reaches its height!
after a certain level .. not only does it make things a bit clumsy for the Cool person
but also sort of does an image damage!
unbderstanding ones limits and staying within it..also doesnt help these "cool" ppl!
wat do u think could help these ppl out of the trouble!!
this is indeed a nice attitude!
afterall who doesnt like to be in the company of cool ppl!
but here again is a small but very strong trouble awaiting the cool dudes and more so for the cool dudettes so to say!
the most cool ones are taken for granted.. and they really dnt mind being taken for granted though..
but the trouble arises .. when the degree of being taken for granted reaches its height!
after a certain level .. not only does it make things a bit clumsy for the Cool person
but also sort of does an image damage!
unbderstanding ones limits and staying within it..also doesnt help these "cool" ppl!
wat do u think could help these ppl out of the trouble!!
Thursday, December 08, 2005
Dreaming.............
Dreams ...
i luv dreams ... be it dreaming with eyes closed...or dreaming with eyes wide open!
i m a believe in visualisation..
and mayb .. would luv to call myself a probability thinker ..
i believe everything has to first take its shape in mind even before it could take form in reality!!
its a mother's visualisation of her unborn child in her womb that makes her relate to the child!!
Visualising one's ambitions and aspirations could make him even more determined towards his goal!!
but my visualasation techniques have reached profound heights now..
i ve started visualising the impending vacations during office hours..
hmmmmm now i m visualising as to how u ppl reading this post would react!!
immediate reaction to comment this post!!
if so lemme know!!
cheers
dreams are such a strong medium to realise one's wishes!!
i luv dreams ... be it dreaming with eyes closed...or dreaming with eyes wide open!
i m a believe in visualisation..
and mayb .. would luv to call myself a probability thinker ..
i believe everything has to first take its shape in mind even before it could take form in reality!!
its a mother's visualisation of her unborn child in her womb that makes her relate to the child!!
Visualising one's ambitions and aspirations could make him even more determined towards his goal!!
but my visualasation techniques have reached profound heights now..
i ve started visualising the impending vacations during office hours..
hmmmmm now i m visualising as to how u ppl reading this post would react!!
immediate reaction to comment this post!!
if so lemme know!!
cheers
dreams are such a strong medium to realise one's wishes!!
Monday, November 28, 2005
Thoughts-Venture
often, i m find myselff thinking about something or the other that is in total irrelevnce with wat i should be doing at that moment.
its jus a maze of thoughts ...but it happens for good.
Its through the adventure into the maze of thoughts, i apprise myself. ...a Self apprisal or rather crudely put a self realisation.
i ve never missed any oppurtunity to guage myself be it by myself or thru others.. ..
"wats ur opinion on me...?? " is a questioni repeat often to my friends ......and more so even to myself..
i luv to hear things from the lion's mouth!!!! rather than assuming wat exactly others might think of me..
but one of the rudest shock this thought venture gave me forced me to blog up this no matter how late i make it hme!!!
"Selfishness" this is the biggest accusation.. the thoughtventure graced me with..
in the name of trying to know wat i think and wat other think of me.. i think i ve grown a bit too self conscious..
this self conscious nature mite be a camouflaged self centric nature!!!
well.. i neither could reason out...the reason for my self conscious nature ..nor can i accept that i m self centric..(mayb i m really not)..
but this thought stream has held my thoughtventure still today!!
well... i m left here..sticking onto another maze ...is it perfectly alrite to try to know wats happening around u abt!!! or is any attempt to realise an unhealthy character trait!!
well.. .as i was abt to sign off this post .. i glanced thru this post..gosh... how many 'I's ,'Mine's, i ve used..
hmm.....!!!!!
:)
its jus a maze of thoughts ...but it happens for good.
Its through the adventure into the maze of thoughts, i apprise myself. ...a Self apprisal or rather crudely put a self realisation.
i ve never missed any oppurtunity to guage myself be it by myself or thru others.. ..
"wats ur opinion on me...?? " is a questioni repeat often to my friends ......and more so even to myself..
i luv to hear things from the lion's mouth!!!! rather than assuming wat exactly others might think of me..
but one of the rudest shock this thought venture gave me forced me to blog up this no matter how late i make it hme!!!
"Selfishness" this is the biggest accusation.. the thoughtventure graced me with..
in the name of trying to know wat i think and wat other think of me.. i think i ve grown a bit too self conscious..
this self conscious nature mite be a camouflaged self centric nature!!!
well.. i neither could reason out...the reason for my self conscious nature ..nor can i accept that i m self centric..(mayb i m really not)..
but this thought stream has held my thoughtventure still today!!
well... i m left here..sticking onto another maze ...is it perfectly alrite to try to know wats happening around u abt!!! or is any attempt to realise an unhealthy character trait!!
well.. .as i was abt to sign off this post .. i glanced thru this post..gosh... how many 'I's ,'Mine's, i ve used..
hmm.....!!!!!
:)
Friday, November 11, 2005
Thoughtless Words
often we are unmindful of the words we use.. and the person we use them to.
the pain it causes and the damage it does to the relationship can be collosal.
but y is this happening over and over ..even though we know the outcome those costly words!
may be we should get use not oly grey cells but also our heart when speaking to others!!
cheers
the pain it causes and the damage it does to the relationship can be collosal.
but y is this happening over and over ..even though we know the outcome those costly words!
may be we should get use not oly grey cells but also our heart when speaking to others!!
cheers
Wednesday, November 02, 2005
Silent Spouses… A Silent Life??
I met my friend today. She had actually dropped into give her marriage invitation.
We got talking about her fiancée. She described him as a man of few words and a silent demeanor. This girl is also a very coy, silent girl.
And my thoughts started clouding again with this topic..
With silent spouses,..How do people get their thoughts across? There is more to candid speaking in relationships as marriage than jus the regular “hi- bye”.
If silence is going be the mode of communication, will it help the relationship to grow leave alone thrive well!
While discussing this with another friend of mine, he suggested that the thought waves of the couple would sync with one another and form a new wave that both of them could relate to.
And hence the pieces of marriage fall into place beginning with the physical attraction aspect!
But again .. if even if the physical attraction should be so mechanical, auto-tuned as this, I feel, there is no point in being any different from the other fellow creatures of the world.
Communication or conversation that I m referring to here definitely isn’t limited to verbal world but also includes the non verbal communication!
More often in the name of not affecting other’s sentiments, emotions are hidden or worst of it are camouflaged. Pretending an emotion to be absent is far more acceptable than feigning some other emotion!
Maybe, on the other hand .. with time they realize the importance of communicative atleast to each other .. be it verbal or non verbal ..
But communication is indeed more Important than any other factor! Be it love, hatred, agony, sympathy , empathy ,anger or even lust ..everything needs to be expressed in order to be understood by the other person.
Unfortunately all of us are not mind readers and the gut feeling (intuition) is not always with us all the time!
Communication is the mighty tool that can loosen or tighten any relationship!
With marriage being a grand repository of feelings, emotions, thoughts and what not, it needs the medium of communication to announce its presence.
And above all .. u need a sound,rational mind to make a rational conversation..
Be it romantic or serious!
Be it contemplating a holiday destination or a divorce!!!
Be it finalizing the dinner menu or swearing at the spouse !!!!
Be it cajoling the unhappy spouse or be it proposing on the 25th anniversary!
Being communicative helps a great deal!!
Communication of my feelings.. yaeh .. I have done that!! But is it sound..? logical..?
It’s for the readers to decide!!!
We got talking about her fiancée. She described him as a man of few words and a silent demeanor. This girl is also a very coy, silent girl.
And my thoughts started clouding again with this topic..
With silent spouses,..How do people get their thoughts across? There is more to candid speaking in relationships as marriage than jus the regular “hi- bye”.
If silence is going be the mode of communication, will it help the relationship to grow leave alone thrive well!
While discussing this with another friend of mine, he suggested that the thought waves of the couple would sync with one another and form a new wave that both of them could relate to.
And hence the pieces of marriage fall into place beginning with the physical attraction aspect!
But again .. if even if the physical attraction should be so mechanical, auto-tuned as this, I feel, there is no point in being any different from the other fellow creatures of the world.
Communication or conversation that I m referring to here definitely isn’t limited to verbal world but also includes the non verbal communication!
More often in the name of not affecting other’s sentiments, emotions are hidden or worst of it are camouflaged. Pretending an emotion to be absent is far more acceptable than feigning some other emotion!
Maybe, on the other hand .. with time they realize the importance of communicative atleast to each other .. be it verbal or non verbal ..
But communication is indeed more Important than any other factor! Be it love, hatred, agony, sympathy , empathy ,anger or even lust ..everything needs to be expressed in order to be understood by the other person.
Unfortunately all of us are not mind readers and the gut feeling (intuition) is not always with us all the time!
Communication is the mighty tool that can loosen or tighten any relationship!
With marriage being a grand repository of feelings, emotions, thoughts and what not, it needs the medium of communication to announce its presence.
And above all .. u need a sound,rational mind to make a rational conversation..
Be it romantic or serious!
Be it contemplating a holiday destination or a divorce!!!
Be it finalizing the dinner menu or swearing at the spouse !!!!
Be it cajoling the unhappy spouse or be it proposing on the 25th anniversary!
Being communicative helps a great deal!!
Communication of my feelings.. yaeh .. I have done that!! But is it sound..? logical..?
It’s for the readers to decide!!!
Monday, October 31, 2005
Passions -- ripened desires?
passion.. a serious desire ??
Of late, i ve been thinking about how serious i can get about desires and strong desires...
when contemplating about life long realtionships such as marriage... certain compromises are always made..
more than often.. small desires can be easily foresaken...
such as the guy giving up his desire to smoke or ve an occasional drink...
but when it comes to passions....
things get a wary turn..!!
so when does a desire turn into a passions...
are passions uncompromisable desires??
Of late, i ve been thinking about how serious i can get about desires and strong desires...
when contemplating about life long realtionships such as marriage... certain compromises are always made..
more than often.. small desires can be easily foresaken...
such as the guy giving up his desire to smoke or ve an occasional drink...
but when it comes to passions....
things get a wary turn..!!
so when does a desire turn into a passions...
are passions uncompromisable desires??
Tuesday, October 18, 2005
beauty with brains ???
What can be more deadly than a beauty with brains..
A ravishing stunner with intellectual genius would make heads turn and would stir the hearts of her male admirers!!
But recently I found another trend..
Guys are falling more for the first aspect...i.e... Beauty...
This is not only limited to males...
Even females... Show this phenomenon...
People somehow or the other...Do not want to be challenged intellectually!
When people are challenged intellectually by a more intellectual person; its definitely not the best of feelings.. and an intention to wipe off such intellectually challenging relationships take root in heart!
So people settle down for a bright face than for a bright brain!!
Now should I use my grey cells.. or should I allow it to rust ..and start powdering my face!!??
Should I turn up to my beautician or to the nearest bookshop??
Dilemmas seem to rule my brain at this moment!
Oops why am I using my mind???
A ravishing stunner with intellectual genius would make heads turn and would stir the hearts of her male admirers!!
But recently I found another trend..
Guys are falling more for the first aspect...i.e... Beauty...
This is not only limited to males...
Even females... Show this phenomenon...
People somehow or the other...Do not want to be challenged intellectually!
When people are challenged intellectually by a more intellectual person; its definitely not the best of feelings.. and an intention to wipe off such intellectually challenging relationships take root in heart!
So people settle down for a bright face than for a bright brain!!
Now should I use my grey cells.. or should I allow it to rust ..and start powdering my face!!??
Should I turn up to my beautician or to the nearest bookshop??
Dilemmas seem to rule my brain at this moment!
Oops why am I using my mind???
Monday, October 17, 2005
Temptations …
Ever been tempted..?? Ever succumbed to temptation??
Today, I decided to go on a shopping spree!
I had made up my mind to be stringent on my purse!
But alas... it took a few very tempting dresses to make my resolve!
This set me thinking!
What’s this vice that mars my resolve.. ??
Its Temptation!
Now wats temptation??
Temptation is an expression developed out of strong liking ness!
When u like something (or some one..if I mite say so!!), u tend to develop a strong force of attraction that has the escape velocity to speed away from your resolve or grit!
This attraction is so mighty that u SEEMINGLY forget issues that mite ve to face!
Tempatation , I feel is a necessary evil to make the earth go around!
If everything and everyone is gonna be tailor made to your grit ..then where is life!
Life holds its splendor when it throws surprises!
Temptation clearly paves way for them!
So am I rite??
Is temptation in a person really needed today??
Today, I decided to go on a shopping spree!
I had made up my mind to be stringent on my purse!
But alas... it took a few very tempting dresses to make my resolve!
This set me thinking!
What’s this vice that mars my resolve.. ??
Its Temptation!
Now wats temptation??
Temptation is an expression developed out of strong liking ness!
When u like something (or some one..if I mite say so!!), u tend to develop a strong force of attraction that has the escape velocity to speed away from your resolve or grit!
This attraction is so mighty that u SEEMINGLY forget issues that mite ve to face!
Tempatation , I feel is a necessary evil to make the earth go around!
If everything and everyone is gonna be tailor made to your grit ..then where is life!
Life holds its splendor when it throws surprises!
Temptation clearly paves way for them!
So am I rite??
Is temptation in a person really needed today??
Saturday, October 15, 2005
An extrovert girl…a guy's friend or spouse???
Often my endless chatter with my friends instigates my thought stream!
Today was no different!
Yesterday, I heard a good friend talk about issues an extrovert girl faces!
Again today, the same topic creeped in my conversation with my buddy gang!
Here goes an insight into my topic for the day!
Gals who mingle well, friendly and wove well with the society are always welcome companions. But this companionship is limited to friendship!
Extrovert females don’t mind speaking to her male friends!
Male friends enjoy their companionship!
But when it comes to the issue of choosing a life partner…. The extrovert gals lose out to introvert ones!
I ve seen lots of introvert gals who with their unspoken words launch a flurry of cupid’s arrows in guy’s heart… and before u understand whats happening…u find a sweet pair!
Not only in love marriages.. even in arranged marriage.. I ve seen the coyer , introvert girls settling soon.. to rephrase in a more crude form…. Being chosen earlier than the extrovert girls!
Y is it the guys are keen on having introvert gals as spouse!
Is it something awfully disgusting in the extrovert gals …if so … y do the guys prefer the company of extrovert girls as friends!
What amazes me..men are able to define what exactly they want in their female friend and in their spouse! And women are more than often ignorant about this!
But the factor of differentiation…”extroverts Vs Introverts” sounds illogical if not dumb!!
Guess I ll leave it here .. ! hopefully new topic should await me tomorrow!
Today was no different!
Yesterday, I heard a good friend talk about issues an extrovert girl faces!
Again today, the same topic creeped in my conversation with my buddy gang!
Here goes an insight into my topic for the day!
Gals who mingle well, friendly and wove well with the society are always welcome companions. But this companionship is limited to friendship!
Extrovert females don’t mind speaking to her male friends!
Male friends enjoy their companionship!
But when it comes to the issue of choosing a life partner…. The extrovert gals lose out to introvert ones!
I ve seen lots of introvert gals who with their unspoken words launch a flurry of cupid’s arrows in guy’s heart… and before u understand whats happening…u find a sweet pair!
Not only in love marriages.. even in arranged marriage.. I ve seen the coyer , introvert girls settling soon.. to rephrase in a more crude form…. Being chosen earlier than the extrovert girls!
Y is it the guys are keen on having introvert gals as spouse!
Is it something awfully disgusting in the extrovert gals …if so … y do the guys prefer the company of extrovert girls as friends!
What amazes me..men are able to define what exactly they want in their female friend and in their spouse! And women are more than often ignorant about this!
But the factor of differentiation…”extroverts Vs Introverts” sounds illogical if not dumb!!
Guess I ll leave it here .. ! hopefully new topic should await me tomorrow!
Thursday, October 13, 2005
Sound of Silence
Not so long ago, I had a discussion with a friend of mine about Silence.
Silence of mind … The power of silence..
Silence of mind, I was told is the most effective way of concentration and self realization!
I decided to experience it! I started with a positive outlook trying my level best to rule out any pessimistic vibe that came along!
I precisely tried to “practice” Silencing of mind once a day for the past 4 days!
This is how it came out..
First 5 mins…
I sit with the aim of achieving silence..
Outcome……
I found two thought streams.. both of which I channelised towards the Silence!.
...end of 5 minutes
Next 5 mins…..
I aim at establishing the silence..That was seemingly near..
Outcome….
I m at war with a huge wave of questions
End of 10 minutes..
Next 5 mins
I aim removing these questions ..but a thought prevails.. and I decide to face them; answer them all in one go before I proceed any further.
Outcome…
I m busy searching for answers and apprising my deeds
End of 15 mins
Thats it!
My voyage in search for silence has to break for the day!
Next day same thing continues, of course, with a different set of questions!
I had one good thing about this entire experience… the questions that I faced where those I have not bothered or have not answered or did not chose to answer!
It made me think over and again about few issues and resolve few issues!
Well still, if this is the music of silence…
Then the melody of silence is definitely lost in the gory of the lyrics called thoughts!
Silence of mind … The power of silence..
Silence of mind, I was told is the most effective way of concentration and self realization!
I decided to experience it! I started with a positive outlook trying my level best to rule out any pessimistic vibe that came along!
I precisely tried to “practice” Silencing of mind once a day for the past 4 days!
This is how it came out..
First 5 mins…
I sit with the aim of achieving silence..
Outcome……
I found two thought streams.. both of which I channelised towards the Silence!.
...end of 5 minutes
Next 5 mins…..
I aim at establishing the silence..That was seemingly near..
Outcome….
I m at war with a huge wave of questions
End of 10 minutes..
Next 5 mins
I aim removing these questions ..but a thought prevails.. and I decide to face them; answer them all in one go before I proceed any further.
Outcome…
I m busy searching for answers and apprising my deeds
End of 15 mins
Thats it!
My voyage in search for silence has to break for the day!
Next day same thing continues, of course, with a different set of questions!
I had one good thing about this entire experience… the questions that I faced where those I have not bothered or have not answered or did not chose to answer!
It made me think over and again about few issues and resolve few issues!
Well still, if this is the music of silence…
Then the melody of silence is definitely lost in the gory of the lyrics called thoughts!
Wednesday, October 12, 2005
SELF ESTEEM...VICE or VIRTUE??
Self Esteem…..EGO
I was led to think about this quintessential aspect by one of good friends!
How important is Self esteem?
What is Self esteem??
Is it accepting oneself as he is!
Is it loving oneself for whatever he is!
Is it taking pride in whatever he is!
Well, I always believed Self esteem is having pride in whatever u are!
Well, there is absolutely nothing wrong in being happy and proud about urself..but it largely depends on the persistence on word “self”.
Too much of persistence on the “SELF ESTEEM” factor breeds “EGO”
It requires a balanced head to take on Self Esteem and wipe out EGO.
But Ego, once rooted, is hard to remove!
Ego invariably is the cause for almost all problems!
With such a potential risk at hand, is it viable sustain a degree of SELF ESTEEM!
Indirectly is not out attachment to the word “SELF ESTEEM” causing the problems!
Well in the same tone..
Why should I be so bothered about what every other person I meet thinks about me.
Why am I so conscious about what others think about me rather than what I think about myself!
Is the child in me still learning the way of the world?
I always believed humility is the best virtue. Today I heard humility plus Self Esteem is the best way to lead life!
Maybe I was wrong all these days!
Maybe I must nurture self Esteem to a greater degree!!
But am I mature enough to evade EGO???
I was led to think about this quintessential aspect by one of good friends!
How important is Self esteem?
What is Self esteem??
Is it accepting oneself as he is!
Is it loving oneself for whatever he is!
Is it taking pride in whatever he is!
Well, I always believed Self esteem is having pride in whatever u are!
Well, there is absolutely nothing wrong in being happy and proud about urself..but it largely depends on the persistence on word “self”.
Too much of persistence on the “SELF ESTEEM” factor breeds “EGO”
It requires a balanced head to take on Self Esteem and wipe out EGO.
But Ego, once rooted, is hard to remove!
Ego invariably is the cause for almost all problems!
With such a potential risk at hand, is it viable sustain a degree of SELF ESTEEM!
Indirectly is not out attachment to the word “SELF ESTEEM” causing the problems!
Well in the same tone..
Why should I be so bothered about what every other person I meet thinks about me.
Why am I so conscious about what others think about me rather than what I think about myself!
Is the child in me still learning the way of the world?
I always believed humility is the best virtue. Today I heard humility plus Self Esteem is the best way to lead life!
Maybe I was wrong all these days!
Maybe I must nurture self Esteem to a greater degree!!
But am I mature enough to evade EGO???
Friday, October 07, 2005
Spirituality and Religion!!
Religion and Spirutuality are they different ??
I recently faced a question in a public discussion
regarding the ritualistic worship that most of us do!
it set me thinking..
Be it any religion.. why are ve so particular abt the rituals.. be it The Sunday mass,namaz or sandya vandanam! y is it we are consicous abt these rituals..
are rituals the shortest way to the Supreme...
well i truely feel.. any religion dictates the way of life.. it merely uphold as to how life can be righteously tread! these rituals are a few disciplinary measures flavoured with the essence of Faith!i dnt mean to say that the flavour is here to instill fear!! but its here to instill habit!
so how can the Supreme be realised!
I recently faced a question in a public discussion
regarding the ritualistic worship that most of us do!
it set me thinking..
Be it any religion.. why are ve so particular abt the rituals.. be it The Sunday mass,namaz or sandya vandanam! y is it we are consicous abt these rituals..
are rituals the shortest way to the Supreme...
well i truely feel.. any religion dictates the way of life.. it merely uphold as to how life can be righteously tread! these rituals are a few disciplinary measures flavoured with the essence of Faith!i dnt mean to say that the flavour is here to instill fear!! but its here to instill habit!
so how can the Supreme be realised!
Wednesday, September 21, 2005
Words Fail!!!
For a person who is candid and communicative..its easy expressing his thoughts ! thoughts,an expression of heart, feeling and soul, finds its shape in words!! but .. what about those who are introverts!! i started thinking about this issue... when i confronted a friend who was madly in love wih a girl but could hardly express it! i told him a number of times to go ahead and propse his love!! but his courage failed!! i mean.. i shouldnt use the word Failed... because he hardly tried speeling his thoughts aloud!!
its not jus him... mostof us turn introverts in certain situations! even the most communicative of us .. find it difficult expressing our thoughts..often when its most needed!! why is this happening??
maybe... when we are still not clear in our thoughts..our words get muffled and finally nothing reaches the other person!
wat ever its...its not gna help either anyone!! oops... y are my words failing me now!!!!
its not jus him... mostof us turn introverts in certain situations! even the most communicative of us .. find it difficult expressing our thoughts..often when its most needed!! why is this happening??
maybe... when we are still not clear in our thoughts..our words get muffled and finally nothing reaches the other person!
wat ever its...its not gna help either anyone!! oops... y are my words failing me now!!!!
Tuesday, September 20, 2005
THE ULTIMATE INDIAN MARRIAGE
THE ULTIMATE INDIAN MARRIAGE
For a girl.. it beings the day her college life with the last day of her college life!!
Her mom’s sis quips..’ maybe we should start groom hunting now!!”
Her parents are brainwashed and are made to take the gal’s horoscope to the astrologer!!
After a series of calculations... the astrologer would predict the position of Saturn. GURU..!!
And thence would begin the search ..Which would even put google to shame!!?
The girl’s horoscope would be circulated amongst relatives…. Thanks to email –literate Indian parents; the horoscopes fly across the seas, over the mountains to reach a relative!!
Once the groom hunt begins... The entire vocabulary of the household changes…
The short listed grooms are mostly identified through their queer nicknames..
IIT paiyyan ….a guy who graduated from IIT
Thivaiyaaru paiyyan.. a guy with Thivaiyaaru as native
Rohini natchram paiiyan
Anda gothram inda gothram….vathima …vadaamaa… .
Jadakam
Sevva dossham
Tamil matrimony.com
Shaadi.com
Gosh…. The vocabulary is very very exhaustive!!
The girl initially makes her wish list and disappears. Once the parents decide on the intial short listed potential grooms, she makes an entry to make her final top 5!!
Before this is the very diplomatic move called “Pics Exchange”. Very ceremoniously, the parents of both the guy and the girl exchange the photos of their child!
The choice of the photo varies from casual (at home attire ) to formal ( aka Raymond) to gorgeous (a la Maduri Dixit) snaps!
I still wonder what people find out in photos.
Well … if found acceptable! ; then the alliance proceeds !
Else … “Has the other gal sent her pics!!! ..Lemme check the mail!!” attitude prevails!!!
For a girl.. it beings the day her college life with the last day of her college life!!
Her mom’s sis quips..’ maybe we should start groom hunting now!!”
Her parents are brainwashed and are made to take the gal’s horoscope to the astrologer!!
After a series of calculations... the astrologer would predict the position of Saturn. GURU..!!
And thence would begin the search ..Which would even put google to shame!!?
The girl’s horoscope would be circulated amongst relatives…. Thanks to email –literate Indian parents; the horoscopes fly across the seas, over the mountains to reach a relative!!
Once the groom hunt begins... The entire vocabulary of the household changes…
The short listed grooms are mostly identified through their queer nicknames..
IIT paiyyan ….a guy who graduated from IIT
Thivaiyaaru paiyyan.. a guy with Thivaiyaaru as native
Rohini natchram paiiyan
Anda gothram inda gothram….vathima …vadaamaa… .
Jadakam
Sevva dossham
Tamil matrimony.com
Shaadi.com
Gosh…. The vocabulary is very very exhaustive!!
The girl initially makes her wish list and disappears. Once the parents decide on the intial short listed potential grooms, she makes an entry to make her final top 5!!
Before this is the very diplomatic move called “Pics Exchange”. Very ceremoniously, the parents of both the guy and the girl exchange the photos of their child!
The choice of the photo varies from casual (at home attire ) to formal ( aka Raymond) to gorgeous (a la Maduri Dixit) snaps!
I still wonder what people find out in photos.
Well … if found acceptable! ; then the alliance proceeds !
Else … “Has the other gal sent her pics!!! ..Lemme check the mail!!” attitude prevails!!!
Sunday, September 18, 2005
WHY DO U DO THIS TO ME??
I guess this is the sentence is the root of many arguments
Arguments between teenaged children and their parents..Argument between lovers … arguments between husband and wives.. Argument between ur manager and u!!
Each of us need a degree of importance attached to us. More often we want this degree of importance to be explicit. Latent respect / regard doesn’t serve the purpose today !!
I have seen relationships go sour because of the lack of exhibiting one’s love!!
I this world of attractive advertisements… even the most delicate and closest of relationship need EXPLICIT EXHIBITION of affection.
I wonder as to why…..public exhibition of affection has become pivotal in the relationships of heart!!
The only reply I gather is that…. It’s a way of reassuring each other of the love between them!
I recently heard a close friend of mine confide that he broke away with his sweet heart just because he was unable to tell her how much he still loved her!!! And that he did not want her to keep yearning for his coaxy words !
I was just dumbstruck… well, I think.. This relationship should mature with time and the adversities it faces!!
Breaking apart for silly reasons like “ degree of importance “ factor ..Actually mitigates the worth of going further in that relationship!
So next time u ask ur beloved one “ WHY do u do this to me?? ?? “ ..kindly think .. is the havoc really needed!!
I guess this is the sentence is the root of many arguments
Arguments between teenaged children and their parents..Argument between lovers … arguments between husband and wives.. Argument between ur manager and u!!
Each of us need a degree of importance attached to us. More often we want this degree of importance to be explicit. Latent respect / regard doesn’t serve the purpose today !!
I have seen relationships go sour because of the lack of exhibiting one’s love!!
I this world of attractive advertisements… even the most delicate and closest of relationship need EXPLICIT EXHIBITION of affection.
I wonder as to why…..public exhibition of affection has become pivotal in the relationships of heart!!
The only reply I gather is that…. It’s a way of reassuring each other of the love between them!
I recently heard a close friend of mine confide that he broke away with his sweet heart just because he was unable to tell her how much he still loved her!!! And that he did not want her to keep yearning for his coaxy words !
I was just dumbstruck… well, I think.. This relationship should mature with time and the adversities it faces!!
Breaking apart for silly reasons like “ degree of importance “ factor ..Actually mitigates the worth of going further in that relationship!
So next time u ask ur beloved one “ WHY do u do this to me?? ?? “ ..kindly think .. is the havoc really needed!!
Saturday, September 17, 2005
DUETS Vs DUELS
I happen to meet two of my batch mates from college today. After the regular Vetti kadais ...We got talking about love, lovers etc..
The first thing I asked my friends-both of them are commited ,was “do u miss ur guys ?“ bang came their reply …. “nowazz,, y would I miss him ? What if I don’t see him every other day! I do talk with him!! So no missing him business!!”
my conclusion :: Remove the song “ evano oruvan vaasikiraam…” from Alaipaayuthae..
The next question…
“Do u fight?? Who starts the fight?? “
their reply … “we fight .. we fight like dogs!! All language rules are grounded!! “
my other friend who was celebrating her 4 anniversary said …. “the first month was the only period sans war…!! Duels were more than duets!! “
my conclusion :: duels were more than duets!!
The question::
“When do your guys get angry???”
Their reply:: “ whenever they want .. For whatever they want!!”
They did explain …
Every time..The fourth ring from their guy goes unanswered……a fight begins~ demanding the reason for delay!!!
Every time… the mobile is switched off…..a fight begins demanding the reason for that
Every time u say “ I m held up with an important work ….a fight begins reasoning whether he isn’t important
Every time .. u say “dad asked me to get home early !”….a fight begins!!
The other reasons they voiced seemed out of the world…I jus started wondering .. if they were in love with a male over 21 ….or whether a toddler around 2.1
Finally ….. I learnt…love laughs for a month….smiles for the next six months… goes grin throughout the following year..
And after a year …. U just need to search for the smile ….!! Its back to business!!
Ultimately:
My friends conclusion::: “ SUHA… NEE MOVIES PAATHU ROMBA INFLUENCE AAGIRKAAA!! AVOID SEEING ROMANTIC MOVIES IF U WANT TO GETOFF THE FILMY IMAGE AND WANNA C THE REAL ONE !“
I happen to meet two of my batch mates from college today. After the regular Vetti kadais ...We got talking about love, lovers etc..
The first thing I asked my friends-both of them are commited ,was “do u miss ur guys ?“ bang came their reply …. “nowazz,, y would I miss him ? What if I don’t see him every other day! I do talk with him!! So no missing him business!!”
my conclusion :: Remove the song “ evano oruvan vaasikiraam…” from Alaipaayuthae..
The next question…
“Do u fight?? Who starts the fight?? “
their reply … “we fight .. we fight like dogs!! All language rules are grounded!! “
my other friend who was celebrating her 4 anniversary said …. “the first month was the only period sans war…!! Duels were more than duets!! “
my conclusion :: duels were more than duets!!
The question::
“When do your guys get angry???”
Their reply:: “ whenever they want .. For whatever they want!!”
They did explain …
Every time..The fourth ring from their guy goes unanswered……a fight begins~ demanding the reason for delay!!!
Every time… the mobile is switched off…..a fight begins demanding the reason for that
Every time u say “ I m held up with an important work ….a fight begins reasoning whether he isn’t important
Every time .. u say “dad asked me to get home early !”….a fight begins!!
The other reasons they voiced seemed out of the world…I jus started wondering .. if they were in love with a male over 21 ….or whether a toddler around 2.1
Finally ….. I learnt…love laughs for a month….smiles for the next six months… goes grin throughout the following year..
And after a year …. U just need to search for the smile ….!! Its back to business!!
Ultimately:
My friends conclusion::: “ SUHA… NEE MOVIES PAATHU ROMBA INFLUENCE AAGIRKAAA!! AVOID SEEING ROMANTIC MOVIES IF U WANT TO GETOFF THE FILMY IMAGE AND WANNA C THE REAL ONE !“
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