often, i m find myselff thinking about something or the other that is in total irrelevnce with wat i should be doing at that moment.
its jus a maze of thoughts ...but it happens for good.
Its through the adventure into the maze of thoughts, i apprise myself. ...a Self apprisal or rather crudely put a self realisation.
i ve never missed any oppurtunity to guage myself be it by myself or thru others.. ..
"wats ur opinion on me...?? " is a questioni repeat often to my friends ......and more so even to myself..
i luv to hear things from the lion's mouth!!!! rather than assuming wat exactly others might think of me..
but one of the rudest shock this thought venture gave me forced me to blog up this no matter how late i make it hme!!!
"Selfishness" this is the biggest accusation.. the thoughtventure graced me with..
in the name of trying to know wat i think and wat other think of me.. i think i ve grown a bit too self conscious..
this self conscious nature mite be a camouflaged self centric nature!!!
well.. i neither could reason out...the reason for my self conscious nature ..nor can i accept that i m self centric..(mayb i m really not)..
but this thought stream has held my thoughtventure still today!!
well... i m left here..sticking onto another maze ...is it perfectly alrite to try to know wats happening around u abt!!! or is any attempt to realise an unhealthy character trait!!
well.. .as i was abt to sign off this post .. i glanced thru this post..gosh... how many 'I's ,'Mine's, i ve used..
hmm.....!!!!!
:)
Monday, November 28, 2005
Friday, November 11, 2005
Thoughtless Words
often we are unmindful of the words we use.. and the person we use them to.
the pain it causes and the damage it does to the relationship can be collosal.
but y is this happening over and over ..even though we know the outcome those costly words!
may be we should get use not oly grey cells but also our heart when speaking to others!!
cheers
the pain it causes and the damage it does to the relationship can be collosal.
but y is this happening over and over ..even though we know the outcome those costly words!
may be we should get use not oly grey cells but also our heart when speaking to others!!
cheers
Wednesday, November 02, 2005
Silent Spouses… A Silent Life??
I met my friend today. She had actually dropped into give her marriage invitation.
We got talking about her fiancée. She described him as a man of few words and a silent demeanor. This girl is also a very coy, silent girl.
And my thoughts started clouding again with this topic..
With silent spouses,..How do people get their thoughts across? There is more to candid speaking in relationships as marriage than jus the regular “hi- bye”.
If silence is going be the mode of communication, will it help the relationship to grow leave alone thrive well!
While discussing this with another friend of mine, he suggested that the thought waves of the couple would sync with one another and form a new wave that both of them could relate to.
And hence the pieces of marriage fall into place beginning with the physical attraction aspect!
But again .. if even if the physical attraction should be so mechanical, auto-tuned as this, I feel, there is no point in being any different from the other fellow creatures of the world.
Communication or conversation that I m referring to here definitely isn’t limited to verbal world but also includes the non verbal communication!
More often in the name of not affecting other’s sentiments, emotions are hidden or worst of it are camouflaged. Pretending an emotion to be absent is far more acceptable than feigning some other emotion!
Maybe, on the other hand .. with time they realize the importance of communicative atleast to each other .. be it verbal or non verbal ..
But communication is indeed more Important than any other factor! Be it love, hatred, agony, sympathy , empathy ,anger or even lust ..everything needs to be expressed in order to be understood by the other person.
Unfortunately all of us are not mind readers and the gut feeling (intuition) is not always with us all the time!
Communication is the mighty tool that can loosen or tighten any relationship!
With marriage being a grand repository of feelings, emotions, thoughts and what not, it needs the medium of communication to announce its presence.
And above all .. u need a sound,rational mind to make a rational conversation..
Be it romantic or serious!
Be it contemplating a holiday destination or a divorce!!!
Be it finalizing the dinner menu or swearing at the spouse !!!!
Be it cajoling the unhappy spouse or be it proposing on the 25th anniversary!
Being communicative helps a great deal!!
Communication of my feelings.. yaeh .. I have done that!! But is it sound..? logical..?
It’s for the readers to decide!!!
We got talking about her fiancée. She described him as a man of few words and a silent demeanor. This girl is also a very coy, silent girl.
And my thoughts started clouding again with this topic..
With silent spouses,..How do people get their thoughts across? There is more to candid speaking in relationships as marriage than jus the regular “hi- bye”.
If silence is going be the mode of communication, will it help the relationship to grow leave alone thrive well!
While discussing this with another friend of mine, he suggested that the thought waves of the couple would sync with one another and form a new wave that both of them could relate to.
And hence the pieces of marriage fall into place beginning with the physical attraction aspect!
But again .. if even if the physical attraction should be so mechanical, auto-tuned as this, I feel, there is no point in being any different from the other fellow creatures of the world.
Communication or conversation that I m referring to here definitely isn’t limited to verbal world but also includes the non verbal communication!
More often in the name of not affecting other’s sentiments, emotions are hidden or worst of it are camouflaged. Pretending an emotion to be absent is far more acceptable than feigning some other emotion!
Maybe, on the other hand .. with time they realize the importance of communicative atleast to each other .. be it verbal or non verbal ..
But communication is indeed more Important than any other factor! Be it love, hatred, agony, sympathy , empathy ,anger or even lust ..everything needs to be expressed in order to be understood by the other person.
Unfortunately all of us are not mind readers and the gut feeling (intuition) is not always with us all the time!
Communication is the mighty tool that can loosen or tighten any relationship!
With marriage being a grand repository of feelings, emotions, thoughts and what not, it needs the medium of communication to announce its presence.
And above all .. u need a sound,rational mind to make a rational conversation..
Be it romantic or serious!
Be it contemplating a holiday destination or a divorce!!!
Be it finalizing the dinner menu or swearing at the spouse !!!!
Be it cajoling the unhappy spouse or be it proposing on the 25th anniversary!
Being communicative helps a great deal!!
Communication of my feelings.. yaeh .. I have done that!! But is it sound..? logical..?
It’s for the readers to decide!!!
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