Passions -- ripened desires?

passion.. a serious desire ??

Of late, i ve been thinking about how serious i can get about desires and strong desires...

when contemplating about life long realtionships such as marriage... certain compromises are always made..
more than often.. small desires can be easily foresaken...
such as the guy giving up his desire to smoke or ve an occasional drink...
but when it comes to passions....
things get a wary turn..!!
so when does a desire turn into a passions...
are passions uncompromisable desires??

beauty with brains ???

What can be more deadly than a beauty with brains..
A ravishing stunner with intellectual genius would make heads turn and would stir the hearts of her male admirers!!
But recently I found another trend..
Guys are falling more for the first aspect...i.e... Beauty...
This is not only limited to males...
Even females... Show this phenomenon...

People somehow or the other...Do not want to be challenged intellectually!
When people are challenged intellectually by a more intellectual person; its definitely not the best of feelings.. and an intention to wipe off such intellectually challenging relationships take root in heart!

So people settle down for a bright face than for a bright brain!!
Now should I use my grey cells.. or should I allow it to rust ..and start powdering my face!!??
Should I turn up to my beautician or to the nearest bookshop??
Dilemmas seem to rule my brain at this moment!
Oops why am I using my mind???

Temptations …

Ever been tempted..?? Ever succumbed to temptation??

Today, I decided to go on a shopping spree!
I had made up my mind to be stringent on my purse!
But alas... it took a few very tempting dresses to make my resolve!

This set me thinking!
What’s this vice that mars my resolve.. ??
Its Temptation!
Now wats temptation??

Temptation is an expression developed out of strong liking ness!
When u like something (or some one..if I mite say so!!), u tend to develop a strong force of attraction that has the escape velocity to speed away from your resolve or grit!
This attraction is so mighty that u SEEMINGLY forget issues that mite ve to face!

Tempatation , I feel is a necessary evil to make the earth go around!
If everything and everyone is gonna be tailor made to your grit ..then where is life!
Life holds its splendor when it throws surprises!
Temptation clearly paves way for them!

So am I rite??
Is temptation in a person really needed today??

An extrovert girl…a guy's friend or spouse???

Often my endless chatter with my friends instigates my thought stream!
Today was no different!

Yesterday, I heard a good friend talk about issues an extrovert girl faces!
Again today, the same topic creeped in my conversation with my buddy gang!
Here goes an insight into my topic for the day!

Gals who mingle well, friendly and wove well with the society are always welcome companions. But this companionship is limited to friendship!
Extrovert females don’t mind speaking to her male friends!
Male friends enjoy their companionship!
But when it comes to the issue of choosing a life partner…. The extrovert gals lose out to introvert ones!
I ve seen lots of introvert gals who with their unspoken words launch a flurry of cupid’s arrows in guy’s heart… and before u understand whats happening…u find a sweet pair!

Not only in love marriages.. even in arranged marriage.. I ve seen the coyer , introvert girls settling soon.. to rephrase in a more crude form…. Being chosen earlier than the extrovert girls!
Y is it the guys are keen on having introvert gals as spouse!
Is it something awfully disgusting in the extrovert gals …if so … y do the guys prefer the company of extrovert girls as friends!

What amazes me..men are able to define what exactly they want in their female friend and in their spouse! And women are more than often ignorant about this!
But the factor of differentiation…”extroverts Vs Introverts” sounds illogical if not dumb!!
Guess I ll leave it here .. ! hopefully new topic should await me tomorrow!

Sound of Silence

Not so long ago, I had a discussion with a friend of mine about Silence.
Silence of mind … The power of silence..

Silence of mind, I was told is the most effective way of concentration and self realization!
I decided to experience it! I started with a positive outlook trying my level best to rule out any pessimistic vibe that came along!
I precisely tried to “practice” Silencing of mind once a day for the past 4 days!
This is how it came out..

First 5 mins…
I sit with the aim of achieving silence..
Outcome……
I found two thought streams.. both of which I channelised towards the Silence!.
...end of 5 minutes

Next 5 mins…..

I aim at establishing the silence..That was seemingly near..
Outcome….
I m at war with a huge wave of questions

End of 10 minutes..

Next 5 mins

I aim removing these questions ..but a thought prevails.. and I decide to face them; answer them all in one go before I proceed any further.

Outcome…
I m busy searching for answers and apprising my deeds
End of 15 mins

Thats it!
My voyage in search for silence has to break for the day!
Next day same thing continues, of course, with a different set of questions!

I had one good thing about this entire experience… the questions that I faced where those I have not bothered or have not answered or did not chose to answer!
It made me think over and again about few issues and resolve few issues!

Well still, if this is the music of silence…
Then the melody of silence is definitely lost in the gory of the lyrics called thoughts!

SELF ESTEEM...VICE or VIRTUE??

Self Esteem…..EGO

I was led to think about this quintessential aspect by one of good friends!
How important is Self esteem?
What is Self esteem??
Is it accepting oneself as he is!
Is it loving oneself for whatever he is!
Is it taking pride in whatever he is!
Well, I always believed Self esteem is having pride in whatever u are!
Well, there is absolutely nothing wrong in being happy and proud about urself..but it largely depends on the persistence on word “self”.
Too much of persistence on the “SELF ESTEEM” factor breeds “EGO”
It requires a balanced head to take on Self Esteem and wipe out EGO.
But Ego, once rooted, is hard to remove!
Ego invariably is the cause for almost all problems!
With such a potential risk at hand, is it viable sustain a degree of SELF ESTEEM!
Indirectly is not out attachment to the word “SELF ESTEEM” causing the problems!

Well in the same tone..
Why should I be so bothered about what every other person I meet thinks about me.
Why am I so conscious about what others think about me rather than what I think about myself!
Is the child in me still learning the way of the world?
I always believed humility is the best virtue. Today I heard humility plus Self Esteem is the best way to lead life!

Maybe I was wrong all these days!
Maybe I must nurture self Esteem to a greater degree!!
But am I mature enough to evade EGO???

Spirituality and Religion!!

Religion and Spirutuality are they different ??
I recently faced a question in a public discussion
regarding the ritualistic worship that most of us do!
it set me thinking..
Be it any religion.. why are ve so particular abt the rituals.. be it The Sunday mass,namaz or sandya vandanam! y is it we are consicous abt these rituals..
are rituals the shortest way to the Supreme...
well i truely feel.. any religion dictates the way of life.. it merely uphold as to how life can be righteously tread! these rituals are a few disciplinary measures flavoured with the essence of Faith!i dnt mean to say that the flavour is here to instill fear!! but its here to instill habit!
so how can the Supreme be realised!